Is it normal to flirt with my husband's brother when my husband has cancer?

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When my husband had cancer, we couldn't have sex so I got really horny. His brother is just like him. So we used to flirt all the time. The brother flirted right back with me. (Nothing ever happened.) I feel really guilty about that. Also, the brother's wife got so angry because she has let herself go really badly over the years (in every way) so her husband is always flirting with other women.

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  • penpal21
    11 years ago

    Somewhere Jerry Springer just came in his pants.

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    • Terence_the_viking
      11 years ago

      Hahah.

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  • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
    11 years ago

    it's good that you feel guilty.

    I know many people use "horny" as an excuse to justify cheating but... it's not a *valid* excuse.

    Nor is his wife's body an excuse for him to exploit.

    carrying on like that is the perfect way to tell a spouse that they mean nothing. Cos "in sickness and in health" is suppose to mean just that ... these days though people like to pretend it's "until you no longer satisfy *my* needs, and then I'm justified in seeking someone else"

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I'm sorry? Didn't I say that nothing happened? Flirting is not cheating by anyone's definition. Read a post before commenting instead of making up the end of the story in your head.

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      • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
        11 years ago

        So if "flirting isn't cheating" as you so claim....

        Then why did you feel so guilty? hmm?

        And no, just because you want to tell yourself "flirting isn't cheating" doesn't mean that everyone else feels the same way.

        As for the end of the story - what end did I create? I only pointed out what was wrong with your actions & with his.

        Then again, remember, you did ask if it was normal.
        Were you only hoping to have people agree with your behavior? I mean it's "is it normal" not "support my attempts to justify my behavior"

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          11 years ago

          The general consensus is that "cheating" involves sexual activity behind your partner's back. Cheating involves deception. So implying that I cheated on my husband is making up a story that didn't happen. It's ascribing behaviour to me that I am simply not guilty of. It's not constructive to do that. I'm fine with criticism but make sure you're criticizing what I actually did. BTW, you don't know what it's like to go through cancer with your partner until it happens to you.

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          • Angel_in_a_Glass_Dress
            11 years ago

            So you never answered my question.

            if it's not cheating why did you feel guilty?

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              11 years ago

              A lot of things cause guilt, not just cheating. For example, masturbation causes guilt in young teenagers.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    11 years ago

    Good for you for sticking with your husband.

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  • Wendell
    11 years ago

    Ask John Edwards

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    • iezegrim
      11 years ago

      My husband was living in hospital for a couple of months and I basically lived in the hospital room with him, on his request, in order to keep him company. On occasion, I would go outside to have the odd cigarette where I'd meet lots of males suffering from cancer. I heard the same old sad story, many times: "My girlfriend/wife left me when I got sick". I was shocked. It's more common that we might think. "Til death do us part" is obviously not taken too seriously by many. I'm glad I stuck by my husband because he got better. Not that I ever thought of leaving him but I did consider the high possibility that he might die (according to his doctors) and I did make mental contingency plans for after his death.

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