Is it normal to find women very attractive yet never fall for any of them?

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I don't really fall for anyone. I see women and feel very attracted to certain body types and stereotypes, but if I get along great with a woman I never really fall for them. I don't develop those feelings of desire. I just enjoy their company while its there.
I love talking to women, I love the feminine charm, I love how attractive some of the women I get along with are, yet for some reason I don't fall for them. And I don't look at them in a sexualized manner either. Once I know and get along with someone, sexualizing them is actually difficult for me. I don't wait for them to turn around and take an oogle at their ass and I never chat them up. For example, if I'm enjoying some bonding time with the meat rod if one of my female friends pops into my head it can actually make me stop. I feel unnatural objectifying someone I know like that, even though they would never know.
Sound normal to anyone?

As a sidenote I am very shy, and very quiet. I don't get along with many women cause its hard for me to open up to someone who doesn't share my interests. I've only ever dated once (though that was a great 2.5 year relationship, which for the most part was very stable and very fulfilling). Maybe this apathy towards attraction is something to do with my introversion?

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  • Dad
    11 years ago

    Yes friends are great.

    When you want to discuss someone who interests you 'more than a friend' then post back.

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  • Mersaphe
    10 years ago

    I too can't fantasize about someone I get along really well with. But if I keep them at a distance and imagine spending time with them it's a lot easier to keep the fantasies going. I think on some level after I already talked to a girl and figured out that she only likes me as a friend or isn't interested in me at all, it kind of kills the desire a little bit

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    Even if your attitude is not common, it's a good one to have. I think about what everyone looks like naked. If I see a couple, I think about what they look like having sex together. But I'm like you in that I can't think of anyone I know as a friend while I'm masturbating, even if they are attractive.

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  • ForMyPeaceOfMind
    11 years ago

    I actually think it's admirable that you hold women at such a high esteem that you withhold from thinking dirty thoughts about them. On the other hand, it's only natural for one to wonder about sex with the opposite gender...even if the person is just a friend. I'm sure you will fall for a lady soon, you may just need a little guidance!

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  • EngineerTom
    11 years ago

    gay

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