Is it normal to find certain disabilities and/or mental health illnesses triggering?

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In my case, I find
Pathological Demand Avoidance; BPD/EUPD or whatever name Borderliners want it to have nowadays; poor impulse control; Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria; sociopathy and psychopathy triggering.

Anything in which people can get away with things I can't and/or choose to behave badly despite having been taught better and/or knowing better and/or being adults.
And how dangerous the conditions I've outlined above are.

I'm autistic myself, if that's a factor.

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  • LloydAsher
    2 years ago

    Then the internet must be an infuriating place for you since its unfiltered human thought.

    My only advice is either not use the internet or get thicker skin. the internet is the public forum to talk about all ideas. If it's too hot for you get out of the kitchen.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      I already take great pains to block anyone from the above on social media and mute it whenevee I can and follow several support groups for those who've been victims of abuse from people like that.

      Once you've been on the receiving end of abuse like that, blocking them out IS a way to "get thicker skin".

      But they are everywhere. They're cunning. Bleating about being stigmatised and oppressed while they co-opt mental health and/or autistic spaces and mewl about being poor widdle victims.

      It's bullshit.

      And knowing people who choose to behave like that are allowed to exist among society despite how little hope there is of them learning to behave properly is fucking terrifying.

      I've had to learn to Assimilate Or Die too. And unfortunately the personality disordered love to prey on autistic people.

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      • LloydAsher
        2 years ago

        Well I dont use social media. That place is caustic even for regular people. Hell IIN is the closest thing to social media I use.

        So what if people believe crazy things? When they commit the crime is when it crosses the real life line.

        The internet will eat you alive if you dont have the skin for it. I'm not calling you weak, I'm saying that by its nature the internet isnt a safe place with smooth edges.

        Or perhaps was I the last of a generation to hear that sticks and stones may break your bones but words never hurt you? If you are getting abused online get offline or get thicker skin and by blocking the abuse that's one way to solve consistent abuse but you will always find the one asshole that comes out of nowhere to insult you. For that you need to get a tougher skin.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          2 years ago

          Unfortunately the abuse was initially IRL.
          It was only through beingonline that I learnt more about what BPD was.

          Maybe I don't seem tough enough to you, but godfuckingdammit I'm trying.
          I remember "sticks and stones may break my bones" well.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    2 years ago

    Until an autistic person is on the receiving end of abusive behaviour a Borderliner chooses to do. By which I mean myself.

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  • Tommythecaty
    2 years ago

    Very true.

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  • Tommythecaty
    2 years ago

    Having a decent “mix” of that I’d say go fuck yourself.

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    • BlueAlice
      2 years ago

      Why? Not my fault you don't even want to try controlling your personality disorder demons.

      You should be ashamed of yourself, only babies choose to behave that way.
      You know you're happy I see through how you and all your kind choose to behave for no valid reason.

      I know one day you can learn to control your personality disorder demons. You're an adult, you're old enough to know how. I have faith in you.
      Hope this helps, my lovely xoxo

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      • Tommythecaty
        2 years ago

        You can’t feel bad if you don’t have the ability to feel it to begin with can you. A person can’t choose their own feelings. If they could then they would not be real feelings, only an idea of a feeling.

        Empathy is two fold, it’s cognitive and affective. I have the same cognitive empathy as you, but lack a lot of the affective. You recognise something bad using cognitive and that leads to feeling with affective. So yes we do “know” something is wrong, but there is a difference between knowing and feeling. A huge difference.

        I do control it for the most part, unless dumb motherfuckers push their luck. Which is a rarity as you’ve got to be a real dipshit to get into that situation. Most personality disorders do mellow with age.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          2 years ago

          None of that was relevantto anything though

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    • LloydAsher
      2 years ago

      I dont understand the context for that aggression.

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      • Tommythecaty
        2 years ago

        The criticism and condescension I felt from the post caused me to become agitated with the Op.

        This fucking simpleton telling me in essence that I should just feel bad and know better makes me...Oh I’ll leave it at that.

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          2 years ago

          There was NO condescension. That was your personality disorder demons making you pretend to think you felt upset for no valid reason.

          You chose to pretend to think you felt criticised because nobody in your life stand up to you. Also, I know you Borderliners like to project when you choose to pretend to be upset.

          I think we know who the real simpleton is here :).

          Your kind pretend to be victims of the worst stigma in the world and deliberately co-opt mental health spaces. If you Borderliners want sTiGmA against your conditions to stop, you all have to learn to control your demons and realise that many are victims of the abuse your kind choosed to inflict.

          Abuse your kind inflicts on purpose because they don't even try to learn to look after themselves and support themselves.
          As soon as someone shows your kind kindness or decency, you choose to pretend to think you hate them for no valid reason. When someone retaliates against your behaviour, you pretend to be the victim.

          Everything IS ALL YOUR FAILT. You know that but you refuse to admit it.

          And you didn't even finish your sentence. That helps nobody.

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          • Tommythecaty
            2 years ago

            I don’t give a fuck whether YOU think you were condescending or not.

            Nor am I trying to help.

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              2 years ago

              Yes you do, otherwise you wouldn't let your Borderline Personality Disorder demons make you choose to pretend to think you feel angry.

              Your feelings are valid but we both know you're actually very happy.

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      • Anonymous Post Author
        2 years ago

        I sadly do.
        Personal experience. Until you've been on the receiving end or observed abuse from those kinds of people, it's impossible to know or understand.

        And I got lucky in that I "nearly" dated a Borderliner and have/had two "friends" with it.

        One of them was my first friend in many years and she taught me some valuable and terrifying lessons about other people and myself that I should.have been made aware or and/or taught half a lifetime ago.

        I'm in a good enough place now, but please understand that I'm not behaving like this for shots and giggles or because I'm a sNoWfLaKe. It is for several reasons which would quite likely take up a whole team of the site.

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