Is it normal to feel weird saying "thank you?"

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I guess some people need to hear a "thank you" in order to feel better which is okay but at the same time, its kind of sad what society has come to. I don't go out or at least be surrounded by a lot of people on a daily basis so when I do, I feel like I dnt have to say "thank you" in order for them to know that I appreciate their gesture. I feel like its already know and they should know that I am grateful without me having to say them. So its not like I dont say thank you cause Im an ungrateful bitch, but I dnt even think of saying it because it should already be known that I am thankful. So the way I see it is I guess society is so f*cked up now, that you HAVE TO say "thank you" or anything polite in order to validate the situation. It's kind of sad but also it sucks for me because when I dnt remember to say thank you or anything polite, I come off as mean or inconsiderate and thats not me at all. For ex, if a waiter brings us the menu and does a great job, I'll be like "okay" and smile but I'll come off like ungrateful cause I didnt say thank you and shes gonna feel like shit. Or when someone leaves the house and I dnt think of saying "be careful" it looks like I can care less but of course I want them to be careful. It should already be known. So Im not familiar with saying these polite things because like i said before I dnt go out as much so not sure how society works now but apparently there's a lot of ungrateful rude people that I can't believe really do exist. And we have to make sure to say these things in order for the other party to feel good.

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  • deepthought33
    9 years ago

    I guess I feel like this too, but I cannot expect them to read my mind so I just do it. I don't like feeling insincere, but I worry that I come off that way regardless of what I say.
    It's almost like some came from a place where words weren't needed and those around you knew you were grateful without you having to say so.

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  • RainbowFlash
    9 years ago

    To you, what is the meaning of "Thank you"?

    In some situations it is a formality which has been born of societal standards.

    If "Thank you" is exercising appreciation for what someone has done for you, then does saying it to someone performing an action as required by their employment seem incorrect? Should their pay be appreciation enough?

    As someone who has worked in various industries I have found that it is often the blue collar workers that give that little bit extra. They are often underpaid and overworked, a few moments of your time, consideration, respect and appreciation can go a long way. Their pay packet certainly doesn't.

    Interestingly enough, when I work on IT contracts, it is often the highest paid that are the rudest.

    Often, a thank you is merely a token of appreciation, but it carries worth, especially considering others have gone out of their way to help. They often deserve more.

    I am always courteous for the above reasons, it is nice to know that what people do, is appreciated.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Excuses excuses, if you can't say thank you then just say, thanks. This isn't rocket science and it isn't anyone's job to read your mind.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    I think courtesy is a very nice trait. No waiter expects to hear thank you from their customers, but it must be nice to hear.
    When I was running yacht charters in the Greek Isles, we stopped taking Germans. I don't believe it was necessarily intentional, but rather the way Germans communicate in general, it became tiresome to have someone demand another drink or whatever, without a please or thank you. It may have been the job of my crew to insure that the guests were getting whatever they wished, but a gruff order did nothing to make the serving more pleasant. Add to that, that they are notoriously poor tippers and at the end of a charter I would have a most unhappy crew. Had to take them out a wine and dine them to show that at least I appreciated all the effort and hard work they'd put in over the last week.

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