Is it normal to feel unwanted when friend doesn't answer or return my calls?

Whenever I call or text my friend and she doesn't answer or return my calls, I can't help but feel like I'm not wanted by her or that she's mad at me about something. In the past I've had so called "friends" who would suddenly stop answering or returning my calls and that usually meant that they didn't want me around anymore. I mean if I did or said something wrong to you, at least tell me so I won't do it again. A couple years ago, I had a small operation to replace my pacemaker. Whenever I called a couple of my friends to tell them about the operation, they never answered or called back to see how I was feeling. One of them went as far as to change her number. I even had "friends" turn on me for no reason. I'm a nice person, and a loyal friend. I'm always more than willing to take time for you to help you out whenever you need it. And like I said, if I ever did or said anything to offend you, then at least tell me so I'll make sure to never do it again. Now whenever I call my friend and she doesn't answer, I always get this feeling like I'm not welcome. We get along just fine. We always joke with each other and make each other laugh. But when it comes to calling her, it's no big deal if she doesn't answer once or twice, but after a while, I start feeling like she's mad at me and that she doesn't want me around anymore. I know that what happened in the past with those horrible people should stay in the past, but I can't help but worry that it could happen again.

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  • vagman30

    Well I try not to think about the worse whenever she doesn't answer her phone. In the end when I finally do hear from her, all those thoughts about feeling unwanted or being betrayed were all for nothing because it turned out that she was still at work, or busy driving, or with her family, or her phone was shut off because she didn't pay her phone bill. A couple months ago during my birthday, I called her and texted her to let her know it was my birthday, but I didn't hear from her that whole week. Then when I finally saw her, she quickly hugged me and said "happy birthday" and apologized. She said she lost her phone and that she got a new one with a new number. She then took my phone and put in her new number, and we kept calling and texting each other a lot after that. With most of those other so-called "friends" whenever I called them and they didn't answer, they would just tell me that they were "busy" and that's it, end of conversation. When I asked what they were busy with, they got all mad and defensive saying that they were just "busy." Because of those people, I always think negative thoughts whenever someone doesn't answer or return my calls. I wish I knew how I can overcome that and completely forget about what happened in my past.

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  • L3xrayz

    I can't help but feel sorry for you cause I haven't ever really fallen of the position of the "forgotten friend." If they've been purposely ignoring you in school, pm services for a really long time, it's time to wipe those crystal tears away and find some new, better friends. And I really am sorry for you, I don't know what it feels like to be forgotten as a friend.

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  • kelili

    You should stop calling those people. I don't call anybody so this never happens to me.

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  • ShiroiMi

    Wow. I tend to not become too close to people and just have very few close friends that I can trust. I find hanging out with girls really difficult though. I only have one close girlfriend that I love so much and two close guy friends that I love too.
    It is hard to find anybody who will stick by you. It is normal to feel this way. People are hard to trust. I would say to first find out why she hasn't been answering. Or find a more real friend.
    But if you are really loyal and nice and want a friend. We can talk (: I love loyal, true friends. ^^

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  • Ipooprainbows

    I accidentally misread your post and clicked 'not normal' sorry, it is normal the way u feel, though it's not normal of your friend's behavior though it is very common unfortunately. I have to be honest, you can never find a good friend, friends suck and boy if you find a good one hold onto them as there are hardly any in this world :(
    I haven't really had similar just had shit friends that back stab, lie and sometime fuk off. So yeah I would say in your case confront this bitch or cut her out of your life.

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      *sometimes

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