Is it normal to feel ugly even at moments where you can possibly feel pretty

you are probably very pretty! I was always called ugly in elementary/middle school but now as an 18 year old in college I'm a beautiful swan. Feel free to message me :)

Look in the mirrior and FORCE yourself to smile and repeat in your head "I am pretty." I went through an awkward stage myself in junior high. All of my friends were prettier than me, guys liked them, and I was just the ugly friend. But now that I'm in college, i'm very happy with the way that I look. You will be too, don't worry.

You're 14? Man, is there more pressure now to be "in" then there was when I was 14...

Here's the thing. You're 14. You're probably going to look very different once you hit 18. You should NOT feel this way at 14, wanting boyfriends and wanting to be as good looking as the little attention whores that you call friends. You should be worried about chores, homework, getting the newest CDs or video games and already you are facing peer pressure to be something that you shouldn't be at 14, anyway?

I'm so sorry for you. I feel these pressures every now and then at 20 but I don't know how I would have handled them if I would have felt them at 14. You really shouldn't be worrying about this stuff at your age.

Dear, I think it's really normal because I understand how you feel right now.

I was once in a position which I couldn't look into the mirror without hating myself, feeling terrible and wishing I was someone else instead. Personally I have suffered from a skin problem and excessive sweating for years, and of course these problems have always embarrassed me in front of my classmates and made me feel absolutely self-aware. So please do believe me when I say I understand how you're feeling unpretty and not confident.

What I'm going to say may sound cliched to you, but I sincerely mean them :)

How you value yourself and define beauty is important. Having a boyfriend/many admirers or looking pretty doesn't necessarily make a person beautiful. Beauty is a state of being who you are honestly and confident.

I always believe that if you wish people to love you, then you have to love yourself first; if you wish people to think you're beautiful, then you have to believe yourself to be beautiful first. What's important is not how the others perceive you but how you perceive yourself.

I remember a quote from a book which may help you:

'And above all things, never think that you're not good enough yourself. A man should never think that. My belief is that in life people will take you at your own reckoning.' - Isaac Asimov (a writer)

I know it's hard for you to change yourself from being self-conscious to being confident all in a sudden. The transition takes time. But it's totally possible :)

You have to learn to accept yourself. You may feel bad about having brown skin but I think it's perfectly fine. You're just having a healthy skin tone. There're tons of beautiful girls/women who have brown skin too :)

And you have to believe that your appearance/look will change/improve as time passes by. There're just so many examples which even celebrities weren't so good-looking/popular when they're younger, just like Taylor Swift. You're just fourteen! The best things youth can bring you are plenty of time and hope! I'm confident that as you grow up, you'll be able to build up your confidence bit and bit. Things will work out for you :)

I think you should really learn to accept yourself and find out what you feel interested in. A healthy lifestyle is crucial. I would suggest developing a new & healthy hobby and meeting/befriending people who share the same interest. Focusing on something you're interested in/good at may help you to increase your sense of self-worth and become more assertive :)

I know I'm a complete stranger to you but I believe that you aren't ugly. All you need is some confidence. Your friends are right about 'you'll find the right guy someday'. I believe you'll find the right person when you finally learn to love yourself right!

I wish you can break through this depression and become confident soon. Take good care :)

Everyone is beautiful. This is one thing I want to push on people. Why do you have to be skinny, perfect hair, perfect skin, have all the friends and boyfriends, to be pretty or popular? That's just what everyone was raised knowing. I know it feels like the end of the world right now, but boys and friends are not what is important. Focus on you and your education. I'm not trying to preach to you, but it's true. YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL. I can find beauty in anyone and anything. We all bring something different to the table. Yes, you will find someone, someday that loves you for you. You don't have to change anything about yourself. Hope this helps, sweetie.

Aww, sweetie, you shouldn't feel this way about yourself! No one in the world's got the right to talk about anyone this way. But to be honest, I've been treated this way too when I was about your age. I've been bullied a lot when I was 13 years old and it absolutely left a scar. They called me ugly, fat, well... You know the words. I've cried and cried and, just like you, I couldn't look in the mirror anymore without crying or feeling depressed.

But tables have turned. I am 15 now, almost 16 and I've got a boyfriend for 7 months, and totally turned into something else. It's unbelievable what a little make-up can do to you, and beside that, you're still so young. You'll grow and you'll look better. Don't worry darling, you absolutely deserve to be happy. Don't listen to all these idiots, they are insecure theirself and feel the need to pick on someone. It probably hasn't anything to do with you.