Is it normal to feel this way the day my gf got pregnant?

It's been bothering me lately, I love my girlfriend and I'm willing to give everything even my life just to see her happy. I want her to be my first and my last girl we have a descent job. and I always dream to have a family with her. then the time came when we had sex and i got her pregnant. once it was confirmed she was very happy. but why can't I feel the same thing. like I know I want to have a baby with her but I feel nothing...BLANK...like "oh there's our baby how cool" impression like that. I just do the obligations a future father will do but i don't feel that excited but still I love her and also to our baby. it's just why am I not to very excited about it. months passes. she gave birth to Denise our baby girl. but still i just don't feel like overjoyed than her... I mean of course I love my daughter but why Im not happy with it.its hard to explain... is it a mental disorder or what? does this have something to do with dual persona? i know its hard to understand my situation and you may laugh at me and think of me as wierd but It's very really hard to explain. and I am not telling this problem to my wife because I'm scare to hurt her feelings. help pls...

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  • georgienne

    It's actually really common for parents not to feel love for their born or unborn child. I've forgotten it's name or reason, but it happens a lot.
    You may not have felt ready, either emotionally or not stable enough in your life. Maybe you'd hoped to be more 'settled' before kids.
    You sound like a great father: don't chase the love thing, do what you're doing and enjoy it. Things may or may not change but either way it's okay.

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  • ygrowup

    Give yourself time!

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  • shade_ilmaendu

    A woman becomes a mother at conception. A man becomes a father when he sees his child.

    The emotion doesn't always hit right away when something bog happens, just remember that :)

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