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Whenever my boyfriend and I get into an argument I always feel like leaving and most of the time I do. I just want to know if there's another way that I should be handling things like that. I mean I know it makes things worse in a sense, but I just want to know how other people handle conflict with their significant other.
it depends on the situation sometimes leaving is the best option handle the problem later while thinking rationally. some instances can be handled better then just walking out. it all depends on how you to argue and what your arguing about
There's no such thing as a one sided argument. This is to be interpreted a few ways, but here's the easiest and most applicable.
In a fight with a significant other, no one ever, "wins," but often, in younger relationships, one party feels like they've come out on top. In reality and taking long-term relationships into account, this doesn't work. Making YOUR peace, then walking away doesn't do much for anyone. It's like talking to a wall, you know? For communication to occur there needs to be effective give and take, not just give and run. This doesn't mean that's what you're doing, but it's the issue with modern arguments!
Yelling what you need to say at each other, then pretending like it's done and going you separate ways isn't the best way to handle these things. All too often we split after an uncomfortable conversation because it leaves the environment awkward and unappealing, while in reality we need to stick it out. Hunker down, because these after moments are when real, theorized and thoughtful talks happen. The best, and former-normal thing to do, is to face the issues head on and not stop until it really is better. If one party feels like they've come out on top, it probably wasn't a very good two way conversation. That said, if both parties feel like they've made their peace, and been understood - even if remedy wasn't immediately made, everyone involved is better off.
A simple thing to remember. In the fray of battle you can not truly evaluate the situation. It isn't until the dust has settled that one can really see what's become of the field.
It's a real good thing you don't live on a boat at anchor with your boy friend. No way to just leave, unless you wanna go for a swim (or walk on water)!
I've always considered my wife to be a well polished professional arguer, and I think of myself as an amateur. I've never won an argument in the decades we've been together. She throws the kitchen sink and everything else into the dialogue. Very quickly my head is spinning so that I don't know what the hell we were talking about when the dispute started. I often get so frustrated and exasperated as the argument becomes more protracted that I say some cuss words and walk out, slamming the door behind me.
When I get away from her and I have a chance to collect my thoughts I sometimes remember what triggered the argument and I can go back later and work on that issue. Sometimes when I have a chance to mull it over I have to admit she was right and I will tell her so, in an effort to show her I'm trying to play fair. She has never told me that I was right, but why should she, when I was wrong?
She does have her redeeming qualities, though. She doesn't have to be perfect for me to love her!
The last relationship I was in we had rules, we would both sit down and lay down our cards and let the other talk without getting upset and letting each other finish, this rule was mine but she agreed, it worked for a while. Other times we would argue we would have angry making out.