Is it normal to feel terrible after discovering fiance's porn of large boobs?

My fiance forgot to delete his internet history after viewing some porn. I noticed he paid particular interest in some obscure model (he googled her name) that looks almost EXACTLY like me...except she has E cups (I'm a 34A/B). The title of the porno was "E-cup babe sex tape."

We've been together for 6 years... I'm 33 years old now. I'm WAY TOO OLD to be insecure about this stuff. When I was in my teens & very early 20s I was *obsessive & insecure* over my small boobs, I used to be a 32AA back then. But after many years of reading online of how some guys prefer small boobs, and then hooking up with some guys that basically worshiped my small boobs, I didn't mind my small boobs that much anymore. They're a part of my overall package. Big boobs are awesome, too, but I felt pretty alright with my small boobs by my mid-20s.

I mentioned I hooked up with guys in the past that liked my boobs, they would touch them and compliment them while I was naked. But those other guys were just hookups. Later when I met my fiance, we fell in love, entered a relationship and put in effort to add meaning to our interactions.

I noticed my fiance never touched my breasts during sex ... if he accidentally brushed them, he'd move his hand away fast. He complimented my legs/butt/face, but never boobs. I had a strong case of Denial... I stuffed away my childhood insecurity and chalked his behavior up to sexual awkwardness.

After a few years I finally mentioned his lack of interest in my boobs ... he blew it off. I asked if he preferred bigger boobs over mine. He said no. This year (after 6 years) he's finally touching/licking my breasts and telling me he likes them, probably because he sensed my insecurity.

Anyway, I was hurt he googled my twin, except she has GIANT boobs. He paid *particular* interest in her. He also did quick searches for other girls who could be my twin except they had larger racks too.

I should be "flattered" he searched for girls who resembled me, but it reinforces that they resembled me EXCEPT they had giant breasts. "E-cups" were in the porn video title!!!! It wasn't even a video of people f*cking, it was a video of my e-cup twin ALONE RUBBING HER BIG BREASTS FOR TWO MINUTES. I know he watched the entire video based on the viewing history.

tl;dr
My fiance looked at porn of a woman who could be my twin except she's FIVE boob-cup sizes larger and the ENTIRE video focused on her solo massaging her giant boobs for 2 minutes. Does this mean his fantasy is of me but with giant boobs and he doesn't like my breasts? What should I do?

Please don't reply about how *you personally* prefer small breasted women. I know men like you exist, I've been with them, and it was beneficial to my self esteem.

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Comments ( 16 )
  • lemon

    I think it's normal for you to feel insecure after finding out your fiance searched porn of women who look like you but with bigger boobs. A lot of women would feel insecure about their fiance's/boyfriends looking at porn in the first place, let alone your situation. It's the same as an overweight girl getting insecure at finding our their man is looking at porn of really thin women.

    Men watch all sorts of porn though. It doesn't mean that your fiance is only attracted to big boobs.

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  • KeepsakeDoll

    He's marrying you for you, not your tits.
    Just keep that in mind.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Tell him how you feel.

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  • MessedUPminds

    I know this May come as a shock to some, but boobs are not as big of a deal as they are made out to be. Some guys like big boobs others like them small but at the end of the day it doesn't matter that much. It's like hair colour; I prefer guys with dark hair but I still have a crush on a guy with blonde hair. We all have our preferences but that doesn't mean we are ruled by them. We love someone based on a million different reasons, not just one.

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  • laxman209

    Its just a fetish, although watching porn if he gets regular sex isn't ideal. But little sex or none, men will turn to porn.

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  • LilakoiMoone

    I can understand how you feel in this situation, but you have to understand too that men and some women look at pornography as a form of fantasy and not something that they particularly want in real life. It is a bit unnerving at first, but you have to realize that he loves you (why else would he be with you?) and don't allow this sort of situation to lower yourself or create any self-esteem overall. Leave the insecurities at the door. I'm pretty sure in real life, he wants you and not those big ass titties (let's be honest)! Most people think they want the fulfillment of something they never had, but in actuality they really don't.

    What I would suggest though, if it bothers you at all that he leaves the history up is to tell him, "Hey, make sure you clear the history before you get up from the computer because I don't want to know what goes on when I'm not around."

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  • Arm0se

    A lot of the time porn is just fantasy, not something we'd actual want irl. Maybe he can only get off to porn when it has big tits in it because it's just more to see on his computer. He mite not even know what to do with them and just likes looking.

    If he wanted some lady with big tits he would go get her, but he's with you. Weather it's for your body, or because he really cares about you, he ain't leaving anytime soon.

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  • stopandthink

    I saw that video. It's a small internet.

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    • Bluedot

      SERIOUSLY - HOW did you find that video??? :)

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      • stopandthink

        If you saw my muscular arm and bruised hand you'd understand :)

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  • RainbowDischarge

    I feel you. My boobs are smaller than your's and my bf also enjoys porn with the big tits theme. It does make me feel awful everyday and I can't wait to get a boobjob. I saw he had hundreds of videos he downloaded within a few months time span. A lot of them were of the same pornstars with big fake titties, and a lot with "big tits" in the title. Big Tits in Sports, Big Titted Nurse, the list goes on. Obviously, being the freak bitch I am, I caused a fight over this, claiming that he doesn't really like my body, that he wishes I looked like them with huge breasts. He got really pissed. Like your bf, mine doesn't pay much attention to my small boobies which makes me feel shittier. I still cant get over this dumb problem of mine. I hope youre able to overcome it. People have said the porn a person watches doesnt necessarily reflect what they want or appeal to them outside of masturbation. Its just such a specific search that we cant help but feel inadequate.

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    • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

      You don't need a boob job. And neither does OP. You both need to stop.... then drop and roll(Ok you don't really need to do that part). It just irritates me when beautiful women feel the need to change their bodies.

      P.S. small boobs are cute.

      P.P.S Im not just trying to make you feel better... Im a dick, promise.

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      • RainbowDischarge

        Haha thanks. Dick! :P

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        • GiveMeAFuckingNameAlready!

          I'll take small boobs over a fake bag of boob any day. They feel weird.

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  • Spankz

    I completely understand. The thought of my boyfriend even looking at porn makes me uncomfortable because all those women are all so sexy and here I am...looking like a 6 foot tall 15 year old, when I'm actually 20. However, people will be people and just because they're looking at images of sultry men or women doesn't mean that they desire them over you.

    At the end of the day you're the woman he loves and he may love big tits, but that's just an attraction. It's just like how some men love giant asses, but the woman they fall in love with might necessarily have that "asset". As most people put it it isn't a crime to look at the menu when you've already ordered, because at the end of the day what you have "ordered" is what you really want.

    Have you considered wearing push up bras? Your fiancé and yourself both know what you have in terms to breast size, but wearing push-up lingerie or bras for the duration of your intimacy occasionally might make you feel a little more secure.

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  • Bluedot

    @lemon
    "Men watch all sorts of porn though. It doesn't mean that your fiance is only attracted to big boobs."

    You're right, he did all sorts of porn searches. Stuff I had no idea he fantasized about -- and that's a-ok, I have weird fantasies too. But based on his viewing history, he did cursory glances at those OTHER videos, and spent extra extra time on my big-boobed twins. To me, this indicates he is *especially* attracted to big boobs. WHAT DO I DOOOO

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