Is it normal to feel scared of sex

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I am a woman and I do not want sex. Or I guess I do but I cant.
I am 25 years old and I have dated to see if it will change but it doesnt.
I feel uncomfortable when someone im dating points out that is sexy or they want to sleep with me.
I fall in love with people but I still dont want to sleep with them.
Ive watched porn though since I was a teenager. But it doesnt turn me on as much as it used to. I have to search hard to find something that does.
I dont enjoy anything intimate with anyone but I used to. In my first relationship as a teen I enjoyed making out. I now no longer do. Everything makes me feel uncomfortable and pervy.
I remember I had a sex drive since I was a kid. I was very curious about sex what it was like. So I dont know why when I got a boyfriend the first time I avoided it. I felt scared I guess. Or maybe something else.
I am very uncomfortable with sex. I am a shy person. Not confident. But most shy people still have sex if they get the chance with someone they like ? I am a virgin and 25 years old.
I reject every chance because I feel panic like emotions about it. Like something bad will happen to me. Maybe with someone who is very patient but first he need to get me in the bed. Its very unlikely someone will be able to without me feeling I am being forced and attacked. Whenever a guy touches me when we're sitting together I feel violated. Scary situation.
What is the problem ?

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52% Normal
Based on 23 votes (12 yes)
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  • RoseIsabella
    2 years ago

    You probably should stop trying to date anyone, and find a new therapist. At least be open, and honest about being asexual.

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    • Sexy442
      2 years ago

      You shouldn't be scared of sex just be cautious

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      But I dont know if I am how can I be open about something I am not

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      • RoseIsabella
        2 years ago

        I dunno, maybe try to find someone who specializes in your particular diagnosis.

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  • Savmitch1
    2 years ago

    You may want to talk with a counselor the specializes in the area of sex.

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  • Irizu3748392746483938
    2 years ago

    I don't think that's a bad thing.

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  • Holland.anna
    2 years ago

    I am 30 year old female. I use to be very sexual. Now I stay up nearly all night every night, just so I don't have to lay near my man while he is awake. Because I don't want him to try to have sex with me. It's not that I want to with hold sex from him. I want to please him. But since the past 2 to 3 years I want nothing to do with sex. And even when I'm like yeah let's have sex tonight, I feel like I'm being raped. I'm not, I agreed to it and I want to please him. But it makes me feel bad, sad, dirty.

    I don't know why I started to feel this way and I wish I can change it. I use to love sex. I want to want it again.

    I hope stuff starts to go better for you, and hopefully I can make you feel just a little less alone or weird.

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  • GuvnorsOtherWoman
    2 years ago

    Perfectly normal. I am asexual and couldn't give a toss what anyone thinks

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  • Tinybird
    2 years ago

    I voted not normal because teens should not be dating

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      2 years ago

      I am 25 years old

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      • Tinybird
        2 years ago

        you said you dated as a teen

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          2 years ago

          Yes I had just turn 18when I had my first relationship

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          • Sexy442
            2 years ago

            That's to young for sex with a partner

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          • Tinybird
            2 years ago

            oh ok

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