Is it normal to feel real attraction to someone 9 y older

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Is it normal that i have this intense crush on my tutor he is 27 and im 18 am i just creepy or does this happen a lot

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  • methodfox
    5 years ago

    Crushes are pretty much always fine. As long as you’re both of consenting age, then there is no problem with acting on it either. Do be careful, though. Some people will take advantage of younger mates due to their naïveté

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  • lordofopinions
    5 years ago

    If he's your tutor it's like a patient falling in love with their doctor or nurse in a hospital. Sort of normal but I would not act on it. It sounds like it would make great masturbation material though. :)

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      do you think it would be possible for him to feel the same way back? we talk about things that aren’t learning too

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      • lordofopinions
        5 years ago

        I'm concerned with the age difference. 11 years difference. What is your end game? Do you want to have a fling with this guy or more like a permanent hookup?

        If you're serious you could steer the off topic conversation to relationships. There is a possibility he is already in one. You could flat out ask him what he thinks of you once you have established he's available.

        Oh yeah. Make sure you are protected, pill, condom, whatever. :)

        Does that help?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          5 years ago

          the difference is 9 years, he has told me he is not in a relationship but Im too shy to ask him what he thinks of me. I don’t even know what i want out of this

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          • lordofopinions
            5 years ago

            My bad. 9 years. When it comes to matters of lust or love it's time to step up the plate and leave your shyness in the locker room. It's only one little question. Go for it!

            Let me know what happens.

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  • Ellenna
    5 years ago

    Surely there will be career repercussions for him if he gets involved with a student?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      There won’t hes a volunteer and has a separate job in medicine

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