Is it normal to feel or not to feel any sparks?

71% Normal
10 Comments

i don't know what the sparks feel like, i never felt them. when getting in to a relationship and wind up making out and kissing and there isn't a spark for them, i don't understand. for me if i'm getting in to a relationship without any sparks or whatever it is or whatever it feels like. i stay because i like the person and going steady with them because isn't that how it really works? i don't get this spark stuff, every time i get in a relationship, i'm either cheated on, or wind up being the dirty little secret and then i call it off, or i'm better as the best friend. sure, the best friend thing works and i'm told things and get like a V.I.P. access. i don't know, maybe i'm just too nice and not aggressive enough because i respect women and don't want to make a woman uncomfortable. but is it normal to feel or not to feel any sparks?

Voting Results
71% Normal
Based on 24 votes (17 yes)
Help us keep this site organized and clean. Thanks!
[ Report Post ]
Comments ( 10 )
  • wafflesundays
    9 years ago | pl

    Sparks are for Disney characters ... When you 1st get into a relationship you should feel the honey moon stage where your so smitten and happy with who ever you are seeing then a couple of months down the line a small argument and if its un fixable you break up and move on to next person untill you find the right one. You have been with stupid people change your type i hope someone finds you and loves you the proper way... Also as soon as something about that person your in a relationship bothers you sit down with them tell them whats hurtin you in a mature and nicely put way because they might not even be aware there doing it.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    6
    6
  • TrustMeImLying
    9 years ago

    When it's winter and dry
    And you are with a guy
    Rub your feet on the floor
    Making sure it's on a carpet indoor

    Then pucker your lips
    Close your eyes until it's dark
    Lean in for a kiss
    And you'll have yourself a spark

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    4
    4
      -
    • Ace09
      9 years ago

      Did u say that urself?

      Comment Hidden ( show )
      0
      0
  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    It's just this intense connection with that person. For me I've only felt a spark after sharing something personal with someone or having them open up to me. I've felt a spark with friends but I'm completely straight, it's just like a heightened love for that person in that moment. I'll sit their silently and then we'll hug and it feels deeper than that. Almost like seeing someone you haven't seen in so long and all those feelings hit you all at once.

    Maybe you just haven't let yourself open up completely to the idea of letting someone in.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    2
    2
  • Walterbasherdinger
    8 years ago

    You're referring to what is called infatuation. It's simply a release of oxytocin and various other chemicals that compel animals to mate. Not having a natural infatuation reflex may actually be better for you, as they can lead to extremely big booms in the beginning that make you feel amazing, but this fades, and if you and your partner do not have compatible personalities and don't share enough in common, drifting apart and ultimately separation is usually the end result. Real love is something that takes large amounts of time and understanding of your partner. Don't worry, you'll find the right one as long as you don't stop looking!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    1
    1
  • chained_rage
    9 years ago

    You and your partner should first vigorously rub your lips on a carpet. Then kiss. Sparks fly.
    Also, why does love always feel like a battlefield? Woo. A battlefield.. woo... a battlefield :|

    Woo :|

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Murun
    7 years ago

    Date a welder.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • noodle76
    7 years ago

    anyone who breaks up because "the sparks gone" is an idiot in my opinion. that's not how love works. you love your mum right? would you leave your family because "oh we had an argument"? no.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • Brianna123
    8 years ago

    Thats pretty normal. Don't worry about it!

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0
  • evica1999
    9 years ago

    i feel you, iam a girl and iam the same. first I like someone and we kiss and make out but when the realtionship is getting more serious i lose my interest in a guy bit iam nice and i dont want them to feel sad.

    Comment Hidden ( show )
    0
    0