Is it normal to feel like you were born the wrong gender?

I felt this way in the earlier part of my life.

I was always a tomboy. I played mainly with boys, outside, getting dirty, playing war games, sneaking into junkyards and other dumb shit boys tend to do. Girls thought I was very strange for it and I just could not conceive of doing the stuff that they liked because it all seemed so boring. I told my Dad that I didn't want to be a girl because girls were boring and wimpy and I didn't want to be associated with that noise.

I'm 23 now and I have realized a few things. For starters, being boring and wimpy is no where near a "girl" trait. My definition of "boring" is not shared with 100% of the world - my definition of fun is shooting, war games, obstacle course runs, racing and working on cars, comic conventions etc. I've found that even though most females don't share my interests, a lot of males don't either.

At the same time, I'm into "feminine things". My tattoo on my wrist is a pretty green and purple vine, I look like a woman and I work with kids and do a lot of counseling work in the education field which is something that is considered feminine. My Psychology professor loved using me as an example of what it meant to be androgynous.

Yes, there is a point to all of this. The point is that gender is an illusion. Gender is a classification that we reinforce by saying that a person or trait has to be one or the other. Think about all of the "real men" out there who don't know what the hell a head gasket is. Think of all of the "real women" out there who have no idea who or what Louis Vouitton is (I know I didn't spell that right).

A lot of your confusion can be alleviated by accepting that gender is a social construct. Even from a neurological standpoint, the differences between men and women are, more or less, restricted to the physiological (uteruses vs. penises, hormones etc.). While the physiological has *some* effect on behavior and temperament, both sexes exhibit pretty much the same neurological events even if they are for slightly different reasons.

That and there are plenty of girls out there who wish someone would tell them that they are beautiful. Not being beautiful or seen as beautiful doesn't make you any more of less of a person. It makes you normal, it anything.

No, I don't think I was born the wrong gender. I do, however, think that I was born the wrong species.
I wanted to be an ostrich.

The ostrich doesn't follow that birdbrain pack mentality.
The ostrich was like NO, I WILL NOT FLY AROUND LIKE A STUPID FAIRY!

No. You're beautiful the way you are and you just need to find ways to help appreciate yourself. To be content with your biological body.

I wish everyone that felt like you could do this. There would be alot less unhappy people in the world and they wouldn't have to throw away their true selves.

Sometimes, I think I'm a genderless blob of junk until I look at myself in the mirror and remember that I'm human and female. XD

I can't really imagine myself being either gender! Maybe I consider myself genderfluid? I dunno.

Transgendered people don't necessarily transition, despite the name implying it. There are many people that still have their biological genitals and just outwardly appear the opposite gender.

Don't let people tell you to act or stay socially male because they have no right to do so. They aren't you and gender roles are completely up to interpretation, if not non-existent.

But despite this, society thinks otherwise.

Ask yourself: would you ever be content with living your life as "socially" male (meaning what society thinks a male should be like)? Walking down the street as a male, dating as a male, looking in the mirror as a male?

If the answer is "no", then whip out that dress. Be feminine if you want. Be masculine if you want.

Basically, do whatever the hell you want.

Your sex shouldn't determine how you act and people certainly shouldn't tell you how to live your life. If you're not causing anyone valid harm, and it makes you happy, the do it - whatever "it" is.

I will never understand how anyone can genuinely believe they are the other gender, because they've never been the other gender so it's about them IMAGINING what it would be like to be the other gender (sorry for the repetitiveness of that phrase). I could imagine I were a black person trapped in a white body, but I don't really know what it's like to be black, because I'm not.

In this case, I reckon what it really means is that OP doesn't feel he fits the male sterotype and why should he anyway?

"Changing gender" involves surgery to the genitals and hormone therapy no person who cared about their future health would expose their bodies to. I foresee many health problems in the future for people taking huge doses of sex hormones which don't occur normally and the body can't cope with.

By all means, dress and behave as you wish, but it doesn't make you other opposite gender my friend. Of course, this is harder than "changing gender" but much more honest and realistic in my opinion.

Surgeons and shrinks are hormone manufacturers are making a fortune out of exploiting people's mistaken ideas about what is a "real man" or a "real woman" - be whoever you are, but you're a bloke, you were born one and have grown up as one, nothing can change that.

If it makes you happy, and doesn't harm anyone, it's normal. The norms of society don't define you, go do what makes you happy! (Unless it involves murder. Don't do that.) I have a couple of transgender friends, and some of them aren't straight when they have changed gender. Remember, what you feel biologically doesn't dictate your sexuality. :)

Roll with what you got

It's your life do what you what.

People used to bully me cause I was a girl that loved farming :( always questioned myself.

Its called Transgender

You're normal and natural. We're made to think we're biologically either 100% male or 100% female. Truth is most people have varying degrees of both genders even if their genitals are 100% one gender.

Yeah it's normal, the th I,g you need to find out is if you want to invest in a gender switch surgically (Lots of money) but many, many people keep themselves how they are. There are many support groups and I don't think you should feel pressured by stereotypes to be a certain way either. There are a lot of forums you can join online that are trans or lbgt friendly and there are so many people that would support and give advice from their experiences. Also online, I personally was so touched by a YouTuber, Gigi Gorgeous. She went through multiple surgeries and they were all taped and her experience in changing is all on her profile.

I wish you the best of luck with everything, hoped I helped a tad!! c:

Yes, it's normal. There have been Trans people who have no desire to transition, either completely or partially. Justin Vivian Bond decided to keep her penis, while everything else became a woman. Its fine. I suggest in joining Empty Closets, they have a gender identity and expression part on that forum. There are a lot supportive people on there who understand what you're going through. :)

This should not be hard to fix. Put on a lacy panty thong under your blue jeans to feel prettier. Get pierced earrings. You can wear pretty ones at home and only a stud in your left ear when you are out of the house. Masturbate to lesbian porn. In this way, you are blending with society that has the wrong expectations for you.