Is it normal to feel like you've lost yourself?

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I have been bullied, judged, and changed by my family and peers ever since I was 5. Now I don't think I am who I am.

I don't like to talk, hang out with people, dress up, go shopping, etc. I used to be the geeky shy nerd who would be distance from others. My family and "friends" would force me to look and act a certain way. Now I cuss, am talkative, have a new "voice" (I had an accent), and I hate it. I don't know how to find the old me because everyday when I am MYSELF people are like "why do you sound like that?" "Why are you acting like that" "give me the cold shoulder" They don't understand or they say I'm doing it for ATTENTION or being SILLY. It's annoying! I spent hours daydreaming of a different life to restart over again with music (daydreams sound like a musical) I wear is it normal to feel like you don't know who you are?

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Based on 22 votes (16 yes)
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  • Aliceee93
    7 years ago

    Okay so most of you on this site don't know my past. I was bullied Terribly right through school which made my confidence 0 like seriously. I hated my self and still do to some degree. I have become stronger and I am starting to love me for me. It's a constant battle with my soul. But you have to learn to love yourself for who you are.
    You are yourself, everyone is different so be happy with what you are.

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  • lifeishard1918
    7 years ago

    its very normal. I feel you! people have changed me.

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  • ZaneT
    7 years ago

    You have adjusted yourself to your changing enviroment to please others but perhaps this has been to your detriment, if it's got to the stage where you don't know who you are anymore. Forget putting on an act for the sake of others, just be yourself and learn to love and foster the authentic you. Ultimately you will never find sustained happiness any other way. You also talk about bullying and that you felt judged in some way, so you will perhaps need to work positively on these issues going forward. Lastly, true friends will accept the real you. I wish you the very best.

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  • durridkbro
    7 years ago

    People change over time. I'm certainly not like I was back then. Years ago, I randomly started this little journal about myself. Things I liked, things I wanted, and etc. I don't know why, just because. And every year after that I'd update it. Although I felt to no different, there was certainly changes. So I think it's okay you're not your old self. Don't let people tell you how to live your life or how you should be. Be yourself and let the people who actually love you come to you naturally. If you want to be a new person, that's your decision. Good luck.

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  • rootlord
    7 years ago

    It's okay to feel lost every once in a while. You'll find yourself again, just give it some time.

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  • bubsy
    7 years ago

    I'll ask you to spend some money. It's much cheaper than visiting a psyche. Your problem is that much of your past remains in the anxiety-inducing, fight or flight part of your brain. You can move it out of there by writing it down, in detail. It really does rewire where your brain stores the memory.

    I recommend you go through the Past Authoring program at selfauthoring(dot)com.

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  • sandnigga
    7 years ago

    Dont you sound like yourself now?

    You are being honest with yourself right now. Thats good.

    You can try to remember what you used to be like. Dont let anyone change you.

    Be yourself. If other people dont like it, they dont have to because they are not you

    If you are not a evil cunt raping people everyday, then you have nothing to worry about.

    Just keep being honest with yourself, and let yourself figure out what you really like and what you dont about yourself.

    And follow what you like. And you'll be yourself.

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