Is it normal to feel like this after breaking up?

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I feel like I still belong to him. It's been a few months since breaking up and the last two months I'd say Ive been doing a pretty good job at moving on and not really missing him. We still have each other's contact info and I don't feel that urge to text or call him anymore. However, he has approached me a few times which is weird cause hes the one who broke up with me. Recently, he texted me while he was drunk telling me to come see him. I didn't think much of it then he texted me the next day and apologized for drunk texting me. I then started feeling flattered deep inside that he texted me but surprisingly didn't think much of it. However, I have been seeing this other guy who Im not that crazy about but there are feelings. We recently got affectionate and I couldn't help but feel some type of guilt. I felt like I was cheating on my ex even though before meeting this guy, I was fine and wasn't missing him. It was until I started hanging out with this guy that I began feeling this way about my ex. What does this mean? and is it normal? The fact that he drunk texted me and I feel that way when Im with the other guy makes me think theres still a possible future with us. We did mention if its meant to be then well get back together but we didn't declare it or made it official.

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  • (s)aint
    7 years ago

    Well ... he´s stringing you along whilst trying to decide if he wants you or if he can find someone better. You do not break up with someone and then reach out to talk to them again and asking them to come see you and that shit.

    If you really really want to give it a shot, ask your ex straight up what he wants, does he not want you? Block him everywhere and ignore him. Do not allow yourself to think fondly of him and the feelings will be easier to handle.

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  • rayb12
    7 years ago

    language is very absolute "in a relationship" "broken up" and words of course are useful to communicate.
    But feelings really don't work that way, and are much more lingering and contradictory with each other even. Just the nature of human beings.
    Love itself is irrational, I would not trying to make sense of it when I do that I find it doesn't help.
    But this all sounds perfectly normal, feelings tend to come in waves, but if anything I would try to validate your progress in the actions you are taking to move on rather than your feelings of missing him. Since your actions you can control, but feelings are gonna be what they are, time is really the most powerful thing in getting over somebody.

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