Is it normal to feel like i'm raping my girlfriend when we try having sex?

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I'm dating this girl for two months and when we try having sex I just can't do it because I feel like she's way too good for me in every way, she's smart, beautiful, funny, and I really feel like she deserves to have a better guy than me. I kind of have low self esteem and low confidence I guess but there's good reason for that, because I don't think I'm a good person and I haven't accomplished much in my life. That's why the few times we have tried having sex I felt like I was raping her because in the back of my mind I kept thinking there was no way this girl would consent to sex with me.

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  • IMissMary
    7 years ago

    Think of her as a whore. Think of all the good looking chicks that never gave you the time of day and get revenge by fucking her brains out.

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  • yesnomaybeso
    7 years ago

    She's with you for a reason!!!!!!!!! Believe in yourself <3

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    • IMissMary
      7 years ago

      Yeah probably bc she has low self esteem too.

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  • RoseIsabella
    7 years ago

    What you're describing sounds like you feel unworthy of her affections, but it certainly doesn't sound like rape. If you feel unworthy then work on improving your self-esteem. The best way to improve your self-esteem is to perform esteem-able acts. Don't compare yourself to others, but rather compare you current self to your past self as you continue to work on self improvement.

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  • Azaman
    7 years ago

    You should work on that lack of confidence man. I mean, sounds like you have an awesome girl, you would think that would boost your self esteem.

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  • dick555
    7 years ago

    If you are naked with her, she wants to have sex with you. Go for it and enjoy it.

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    • imsoJealousofIman
      7 years ago

      Lesson kids!- If both are naked together it's not rape.... WTF?

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  • Tealights
    7 years ago

    Be honest with her about how you're feeling and see her reasons for dating you. After that, work on yourself, one thing at a time and have her cheer you on.

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