Is it normal to feel like i'm not meant for relationships?

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I don't know how to explain myself but I simply do not feel as if I am meant to have a relationship. Inside I am cold and despite trying, I feel no empathy for anyone I know. I think that if I enter a relationship I will end up hurting my partner simply because I could... Please understand that I'm not trying to be funny here, this isn't a joke.

Why do I this way? I'm 18 and despite being handsome and athletic I have never opened myself to anyone and have never had a relationship. I feel consumed by an intense narcissism and an unbelievable aggression as well. This aggression confuses me though, its set of by unusual thing like people complementing me. I don't understand whats wrong with me. The only time I want to have a relationship is when I see ugly people dating.

What is the matter with me?

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  • TheConsciousElectron
    12 years ago

    Maybe you have anti-social personality disorder. Or maybe you are legitimately narcissistic and so into yourself that you're incapable of ever caring about anybody else.

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  • Anonymous Post Author
    12 years ago

    I dont know if its about being "love-shy" dude... Its as if I just prefer superficiality (thats why I like chatting online). Outside of romantic relationships, I've never kept a normal friendship for more than 2 years.

    I understand that the way I behave isn't particularly normal, but whats really bothering me is my unusual levels of aggression. Inside myself I feel constantly angry but mask it with charm and eloquence in public.

    Let me give you an example: I'm walking through my university and some girl randomly says "nice dimples hey" or something about my hair. I smile and thank them (act embarrassed), and as I walk away I feel infuriated with myself AND the person I spoke to. I think about hurting the person I spoke to...

    I dont know whats wrong with me... Thats why I just prefer to keep all contact superficial.

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    • 4nother1
      9 years ago

      Very interesting

      Do you think you feel upset because they were getting too close? Some people feel harassed when they get hit on and it is annoying sometimes. Perhaps you get angrier than usual but the initial sentiment is more normal than not. Other people get conceited and start loving themselves too much because of how much they get hit on so perhaps you're not so bad

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  • TotalAspie
    12 years ago

    My guess is that you're possibly love-shy. I've had similar feelings because of my Asperger's, and sad as it may be, I probably never would have found women if it wasn't for the Internet.

    But if you got the looks and you're athletic, then you have something to be proud of. Those qualities draw attention, so maybe you can find someone who also feels the same way as you.

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