Is it normal to feel like dating is the root of all my misery?

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I feel like as I get older I'm almost trying to date women in a desperate attempt to find "the one"
to appease my family. It seems like every girl I date it always ends because of one small thing she finds she doesn't like about me. Most of the time I am happy being single, but feel like my value on the dating market is plummeting as I age so I feel like I have to keep going even though I don't want to.

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  • Servian
    5 years ago

    Convert to Islam

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      ...What?

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  • leggs91200
    5 years ago

    Oh my GYOD what you feel is 100% normal.

    Yes, it does seem women will pick any little thing to decide it isn't worth ANY effort to make a relationship work. Oh yes, they will find any tiny little reason to end things.
    Owning a god damn cat is NO reason for someone to just vanish.

    When people imagine a relationship, perhaps this image comes to mind - "Good morning" texts, enjoyable phone calls, a lot of smiles, romantic dates/dinners, incredible sex, cannot wait til the weekend when you two can spend quality time...

    The reality is not so pretty. It is more like much worry about when it will end (if you give a damn whether or not things last), a lot of fighting, jealousy, having to explain to yoir friends/family why you are dating "that thing", trying to tell yourself that their looks or personality makes up for the other...

    Consider this - Even if "the one" came along and didn't ghost you because of some silly BS like you owned a goldfish 20 years ago, the relationship would soon get boring anyways.

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  • SmokeEverything
    5 years ago

    What's a dating market? You need to stop comparing yourself to people's expectations of you. That's just something that's going to put you through a lot of stress to make yourself unhappy.

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  • bubsy
    5 years ago

    Neediness is the least attractive trait to women. Likely, this 'small thing' somehow showed that you were emotionally needy/invested more into her than you were yourself. That's a 'big thing' when it comes to attraction.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      5 years ago

      The last "small thing" was a date I had a few nights ago, our whole conversation was going great until I brought up the fact that I had a cat. Apparently, she loathed cats and of course felt need to be very vocal about it. The rest of our date was fine, but of course she ghosted me after I texted her I had a great time because stupid little things like this are deal breakers...

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      • bubsy
        5 years ago

        Something a lot of guys don't realize when it comes to dating:

        Almost every girl you first meet is Neutral. Your goal is to polarize her away from Neutral and see if she's Receptive or Unreceptive. Either way you win, because you either get the girl who makes you happy or evade the girl who doesn't.

        She was Unreceptive. My only critique is that if you can, polarize her into Receptive or Unreceptive before the date. Save yourself time and money by only dating Receptive women.

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      • RoseIsabella
        5 years ago

        Why on Earth would you still be interested in some bitch who doesn't like cats?! Forget her sorry ass!

        If a guy told me he didn't like cats it would be a dealbreaker for me. I don't have a minute to spare for anyone who doesn't like cats!

        FELINES FIRST ALL MUTHAFUCKIN DAY LONG, BITCHES!!!

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  • RoseIsabella
    5 years ago

    Do not define yourself, nor allow others to define you by your relationship status!

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