Is it normal to feel inferior to my little sister?

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Wow don't even know if I worded that question right. So she is like 3 years younger and ever since we were kids she has been better than me at EVERYTHING!! My first year of soccer, I was clumsy and didn't score until the end of the season. Her first Game she scored the first goal. When my dad taught us to fish, she was the natural and I was the one getting nothing. She got better grades than I did and had a lot more friends at school. She even got a boyfriend and lost her virginity before I did. Okay the last two shouldn't be that important, but my point is everything seems to be easy for her. A couple years ago, I decided to pursue a career in law enforcement. I've been studying and even training myself so by the time I graduate from college, I'll be ready. She used to want to be a physical therapist, which by the way was my original choice, but now she says she wants to go into law enforcement. Obviously, I can't tell her not to, but I am just so tired of doing the same thing she is just so she can show me up. I want a career in law enforcement, but now that she want to do it too, I am actually reconsidering. Is it normal to be this threatened by my little sister? Anybody gone or going through something similar?

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  • DubstepismyMJ
    9 years ago

    Yup. Ive been in the same position. My little brother was gifted.
    Same exact thing happen to with fishing LOL. For some reason he had a knack for catching fish. Where i didnt catch jack. He was better with people than i was also.

    I grow up resenting him. But all he did was be himself. He never ment to show me up. Often times i think he would be copying me. But he did it because he looked up to me. Or ive inspired him in some way.

    I grew up thinking he was better than me in every conceivable way. But that was bogus, all in my head. You cant let that negative way of thinking get in the way. You should never compare yourself to other people. We're all just too different.

    Him being outgoing and i introverted, does not make me inferior. It makes us different. Do you see what im getting at?

    Your sister getting a goal while you didnt, does not mean your inferior.
    What if i told you, her watching you play soccer, actually made her a better player by carefully analyzing what she could have done better.
    Often times when you look up to someone, your more aware of their every actions.

    So be proud of your little sister. Shes family, not your enemy.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I really appreciate this comment. I guess I never took the time to look at it that way. Thanks for your comment, It meant a lot :)

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  • kelili
    9 years ago

    I feel a little sad for you. I have three sisters and I never had these problems. We are so different that we complement each other.

    You should be flattered - your little sister is seeing you as a model.

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  • Caps90
    9 years ago

    The feeling is totally normal. Honestly though, she probably feels that you are way better than her.

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