Is it normal to feel i should take up whatever is available?

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I've got an ideal type in mind but that one guy just never comes along. Is it normal to settle for someone who has been persistent in pursuing you?

I'm tired of waiting... For about a year, after what I thought was the last "love of my life" relationship, I haven't found anyone who I like enough to get into an actual relationship with... i know, so sad :(

Now this guy, who's been courting me for over a year, has started to seem attractive to me. I think it may be because there are no other options....

Is that normal? Could that work?

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Depends.

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  • lc1988
    9 years ago

    Being single is better than settling. You'll find out though one way or another.

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  • davesumba
    9 years ago

    Nope, you'll just waste 2+ years of your life with this guy, and miss out on any chances you had during that time to be with the right guy.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    He obviously thinks you are something pretty special, if he's been courting you for a year. You know looks aren't everything and what's better than someone who's really into you?
    I wouldn't call it "settling", I'd call it being very smart. At least you can be yourself with this guy and not have to worry about if he likes you. I would think that would make things a lot easier for you.

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    • GraveRogue
      9 years ago

      This is the best answer. Haha

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  • Splithead
    9 years ago

    It's happening and it's bad. You should give him a shot just because he may surprise you but tbh you'll probably just end up sort of chilling woth him untill something better comes around. You could ruin him if you do that, hes extremely vulnerabke now even if you dont see it. After waiting a year he's gonna feel like a lot is riding on this amd if you arent careful a broken heart here could cause him a lot of pain... and evntualy cause him to do somethibg similar to someone else. I do t really kniw the answer but I feel lije if you have to ask... you kind of already know.

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  • LAR23
    9 years ago

    If you don't enthusiastically feel it, don't do it. He'll definitely notice and it will make both of your lives miserable

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  • Twickers
    9 years ago

    What is wrong with enjoying time spent with other people? Even if they aren't "perfectly interesting"? Why wait around for Mr. Right, when he might be a no show? No one ever said you have to wait for Mr. Right alone.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    Normal.

    Sometimes people end up ignoring someone who has the potential to become their new ideal type.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      It's funny you'd say that....I've been thinking along those lines. It's not like this guy and I dont have a ton in commomn... just that I've never looked at him that way in the time we've known each other

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  • Fall_leaves
    9 years ago

    Don't settle, come on there has to be that guy out there. I think you should wait and only pursue someone you really are into, you might miss mr right by dating the guy that is completely wrong for you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      but I've been alone for sooooo so long :(

      it seems it's become more of a practical matter then a love-of-my-life matter

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      • Fall_leaves
        9 years ago

        I know the feeling :/

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          No, you don't! You've only been alone for a few months, I knows!!! lol

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          • Fall_leaves
            9 years ago

            You must be a regular user lol. I still feel lonely but if it's what you feel is right then you should go with your instincts!

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            • Anonymous Post Author
              9 years ago

              lol! i might be... ahaha

              but.....all my instincts sayn "NO" :(

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  • GraveRogue
    9 years ago

    You should at least go on dates with him, honestly. Dates are harmless, and you'll make him feel better about himself as well as you get to wait for whoever you think is right for you. If you wind up falling in love with him, then maybe he was Mr right after all.

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