Is it normal to feel hurt when your boyfriend gets close to your friends?

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for about 7 months. He's a really outgoing guy that's easy to get along with so of course he has many friends/friendly acquaintances. He's been able to get along with my friends perfectly since I spend a lot of time with my friends and boyfriend at the same time.

Lately I've just been feeling a pang of hurt and jealousy whenever he would talk about giving nicknames to one of my friends, or that they would talk/text. I'd also get reaally jealous when he would tease my friends. For example, my friend would be tickling me to death and then he'd start tickling my friend. Or, during a snowball fight, my friend would throw one at me and then he would chase her down and grab her and smash snow into her. Other times, one of my other friends would just run and hug my boyfriend from behind and he'd be totally okay with it. It hurts a lot whenever stuff like this happens, but I don't show it cause I know that he's just that friendly kind of guy...

Is it normal to be jealous to this extent for small things?
Is there anything I can do to decrease my jealousy?

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  • RoseIsabella
    11 years ago

    I was gonna suggest maybe you're afraid of being left out but I think maybe it's a little too friendly in some ways. I don't like him tickling the one girl but I also don't like the bit about the girl hugging him from behind. I think it's totally normal to hug certain friends ...but from behind?

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  • 1000yrVampireKing
    11 years ago

    Be careful if he starts getting to close to one of your friends.

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  • kingofcarrotflowers
    11 years ago

    It's fairly normal just don't act on it

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  • solytis
    11 years ago

    well this doesn't sound normal to me, since he is your boyfriend he has to care about your feelings, but maybe he doesn't mean make you jealous, try to talk to him and tell him that you don't like it

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  • Paradiddle
    11 years ago

    Well, if this were a hen-Ah sorry, where are my manners. I'm not a female but I can see this being a normal feeling, your friends are still females after all. This guy sounds like a pretty good guy at least so that is good. When you mentioned that he would talk to your friends, I didn't think that was harmful. Tickling your friends, I can see that but not too much of a big deal. Grabbing your friend during a snowball fight could come off as too friendly when you're around. Getting hugged by your friend and being okay with it? Nah, I would think he wouldn't want to do that in your presence. It doesn't sound like he is doing it on purpose and I assume he is giving you plenty of attention when your friends aren't there. I'm not sure anything can really decrease jealousy aside from talking to him about it. From the sounds of him, he would be glad to focus more on you at these hangouts if you wanted. Maybe you two could have more alone time without your friends if needed.

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