Is it normal to feel hurt and not wanting to sing again in front of boyfriend?

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My boyfriend of almost 4 years knows how to sing, I do too, but he is good at it and has a beautiful voice, I dont have that talent. Sometimes we sing together or if I put my ipod in his car I sing along. On Sunday there was a "bad" singer on a tv show and he told me I sing better than this singer. I felt offended but didn't say anything to him. Now I decided to never again sing in front of him and I also feel stupid because all the times he heard me sing. Do I have to let him know I will never let him hear me singing again (I think he'll be glad) or just not sing and wait until he asks me why I don't do it anymore. Now I feel we have less things in common, he is a good singer and I suck at it.

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  • Isabella80s
    10 years ago | pl

    Hang on, he said you sing better than the 'bad' singer and you're offended? He didn't say, "yeah, that's about your level", or, "you have a similar voice". I don't get it?

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    • valisque
      10 years ago

      I think the point is he put her in the same class as him to consider it a valid comparison. Depending on how bad a singer he was then that would be worth offence.

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  • Short4Words
    10 years ago | pl

    Don't get too caught up into what he said, keep singing if it makes you happy. It probably makes him happy if you sing with him too. Harmonies aren't often perfect but they sound beautiful even if someone isn't as good as the other one and that's okay, he's either naturally gifted or has had a lot of practice. If it means that much to you, you should practice more.

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  • DolphinAngel
    10 years ago

    It was probably meant as a compliment and he most likely didn't think that the singer was that bad, he just wanted to tell you that you sing pretty good...

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  • Erik963
    10 years ago

    Fuck singing. Every second person that gets born wants to be a "Singer". All of you shitheads sing songs you didn't create. Then you undeservedly gloat about "how good you are".

    No shit music in 21th century is completely fucked. It is almost impossible to find anything original.

    About topic. Yes it was bad to compare you with someone who can't sing, but I don't think he wanted to offend you. Take it easy.

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  • (s)aint
    10 years ago

    Something that I'd also like to point out is: You have been together for four years and you can' straight up tell him that you found his comment hurtful?

    My boyfriend is a great dancer, whilst I'm clumsy and can barely walk from one end of the house to the other without knocking something down ...xD

    Communication is the key to all relationships!

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  • linchpin
    10 years ago

    To be honest I think he was just being cheeky and playful with that comment and you took it to heart. Don't be insecure. Do what you think is best but always live life to the full

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  • GarlicOlive
    10 years ago

    Do not feel ashamed, it is your own voice and you are unique! Maybe even better than me. Don't let others prevent you from doing things that you enjoy ;)

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  • dummyme74
    10 years ago

    Thank you all for your comments. I won't give it mind then.

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    • robbieforgotpw
      10 years ago

      Can you shart though? I shart my undies full on a daily basis

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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Since you love singing so very much but feel quite self conscious now, why don't you take singing lessons. It certainly can't hurt you to learn to be a better singer!

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  • SHAKEStheClown
    10 years ago

    Act passive aggressive and play head games with him I'm sure he'll love that!

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  • MissesAnonymous23
    10 years ago

    Does learning the word 'better' get skipped in elementary school now?

    I'm guessing if he said that singer sang better than you, it would be taken as a compliment, right?

    Fuck.

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  • dummyme74
    10 years ago

    He did told me the singer was bad, saying that I sing better is putting me at the level of this singer (the ones that cant sing). I am ashamed because now I think that I used to annoyed him but he never said anything until now indirectly.

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    • dom180
      10 years ago

      He isn't putting you at the same level though, he's saying you are better. I really don't get it :/ Most boyfriends would enjoy their girlfriend's singing, and I think yours did too.

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    • Paradiddle
      10 years ago

      Just to put the facts out there, when someone says you sing better than anyone, it means exactly that, its a compliment and that you aren't on the level of that singer. On the contrary, you wouldn't have wanted him to actually say that you sung worse than that bad singer right? That would be an insult. The only way you can take offense to this compliment of all things is that you don't like being compared at all to a bad singer but that too is silly because he said you were better. Its not good to be illogically sensitive, especially when he is giving you good words. You don't want to push anyone away like that and if he says you were better then that is what he meant.

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    • Sog
      10 years ago

      Maybe comparing you to the "bad" singer wasn't the best thing to do.

      But I think he was just trying to make you feel better as you seem to be self conscious about him being the better singer.

      If your boyfriend really was annoyed by your singing, I don't think he would have put up with it for four years. I bet that he's really frustrated and upset that you made such a big deal about such a little comment after you've been together for this long.

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      • [Old Memory]
        10 years ago

        "He did told me the singer was bad, saying that I sing better is putting me at the level of this singer (the ones that cant sing)"

        How does saying you are BETTER then someone is putting you on the SAME level?

        Doesn't make any fucking sense!

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        • Sog
          10 years ago

          Well the singer on TV was likely part of a joke. "You sing better than someone who is so bad that it's being used as a punchline" is not really a compliment at all.

          Just like if you were watching Biggest Loser, it's probably not a good idea to say, "See? At least you aren't THAT fat!"

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          • [Old Memory]
            10 years ago

            No. Because he didn't say it like that, he said "you sing better than him" and not "atleast you are not THAT bad!" There is a diffrence.

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  • ucipher8
    10 years ago

    "oh god babe, you sing better than him"

    "What do you mean by that?"

    Win!

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  • [Old Memory]
    10 years ago

    I am often amazed at how illogical and sensitive people can be.
    You are being redicilous. He said you sing better. Don't take everything so touchy.
    If I had a girlfriend who got upset at things like that I would kick her out.

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