Is it normal to feel guilty and sad that a close friend has a illness you don't

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I have a friend, she is a very close friend, I love her so much as a friend, she is wonderful and like and angel.

But she has an illness, I think it's something to do with her blood, she is fine for now but it may have reduced her life span.

I feel so guilty and sad that it's her who has the illness and not me, it should be me who has the illness.

I don't mention this guilt and sadness to her as she would probably not like the thought of me feeling guilty and sad over such an issue.

But I do, me and her share gods and religious beliefs, I pray to the gods to transfer her illness to me, but they never do. I beg them to give her illness to me, she is worth so much more than me, though I don't tell her this and she loves and cares about me as a special friend as much as I do her.

Such guilt and sadness has made me sometimes want to die, but I will never leave her, and I don't want to have to wait an entire lifetime before we are united in the eternal Summerland.

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  • Duff-Man02
    10 years ago

    Dafuq is wrong with you? Be happy that you are alive and well. Your friend's situation is bad and all, but to wish to have her disease yourself? That's fucked up.
    And there's no such thing as "Eternal Summerland". You die and you're dead. It's over. Your body decomposes and there's nothing else.

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  • Dr.Moe_Lester
    9 years ago

    Don't feel guilty... Just support her the best you can!

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  • flowergirl87
    10 years ago

    It's very understandable and I would say normal, yes. It's a sad situation. However, the best thing you could do for this friend and for yourself, is it continue with your friendship and make the most of it. Share jokes and experiences etc. and have fun now. I may as well mention that I might have a condition that MIGHT reduce my lifespan... and I'd hate to think that any of my friends would feel guilty etc. over it. So I know it's different because mine is a might. But don't give the illness that much power! Don't let it affect your happiness and the time you have now with your friend. Do you see what I mean? Illness and disease is a very sad thing and a load that some of us, unfortunately, have to bear. But don't give it this much of an influence! The life we have now is there, enjoy it.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    10 years ago

    Feeling guilty for something that is out of your control can lead to depression please seek proffesional help.

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