Is it normal to feel extremely attracted to some other girl then just my gf?

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I'm 20 yrs of age and in a great relationship with a beautiful girl...thing is, I'm extremely blown away by this very, very attractive girl at my sisters workplace. I'm still in-love with my GF, but this girl is driving me nuts...sucks she doesn't even know me...but at least I keep myself under control...need some advice...anyone who who knows good about this DAMNED situation

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  • a_blonde_paradox
    13 years ago

    GF def doesn't want to hear about you liking another girl or finding another one extremely attractive. If you truely love your GF, you will keep your distance from the temptation that is the other woman and NEVER act on your impulses, thoughts or otherwise. It's not worth losing someone you love for someone who doesn't even know you exist.

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  • follow_me_down
    13 years ago

    well. its simple.
    If you love your GF enough, you will resist the temptation and try to go see your sister when the girl is NOT working. Otherwise, if you have to see this girl, then reinforce in your head why you love your GF and why she is important enough not to lose over lust for another. Whether you fess up to your GF about your wandering mind is up to you.

    However, if you feel that you cannot pass up this opportunity, calmly discuss with your GF how much you do love her but feel so strongly for someone else, break up and try with this new girl.

    Please just don't cheat. That will screw you out of both girls..and others respect.

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  • JuliusE
    13 years ago

    Not true serene. Every man goes through that married or not. Just don't act on it, and trust me, your gf does not want to hear that.

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  • bleach_baby
    13 years ago

    If you love your girlfriend, stay away from this other girl incase you try to do something you end up regretting. Attractions to other people do develop, especially if youve been with someone long term, but it is your responsibility to be strong and not betray your girlfriend.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    If you really love your gf you wouldn't notice other women in that way.

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  • IDontAskMuch
    13 years ago

    Well I'm female and married and I can honestly say hand on my heart that I don't ogle other men. I live my husband with all that I am that no one else is worth looking at. So I would not go as far as to say it's rubbish. It's just women are different creatures to men and we don't have anything to prove and invest our whole self into our relationships. Why look or fantasise about someone else when you already have the best.

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  • princessthan
    13 years ago

    Dont do it...

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Attraction is human nature...male or female. I am a woman and my partner is a woman but we both still know that there are thousands of people in the world that we could possibly be attracted to if we allowed those feelings to take root. It isn't because there are problems in our relationship...it's a close to perfect as it can get...but we are still human.

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  • 8Serene8
    13 years ago

    Then I guess women are different than men because if we love someone we won't feel the need to even look at other men let alone be attracted to any that aren't our man.

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    • mooks
      13 years ago

      What bollocks!! Dont tell me that when a women is in love with her boyfriend/girlfriend, she still does not look at the celebrities on stage, or wherever, and lust after them.
      Its perfectly normal to feel attracted to someone, even if your in a relationship. If you love the person your with, then you dont act upon these urges.

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  • randomjelly
    13 years ago

    Normal to notice but you're a shit smear if you let things develop.

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  • IDontAskMuch
    13 years ago

    *love

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  • x6tence
    13 years ago

    imma say girls r equaal nice n its jus the romeo juliet case,you want somethin so much u aint allowed to get n ill say too thats not that easy to get rid off in ur case haha

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  • Cause4Concern
    13 years ago

    Its very common to have the hots for another girl :P Its human nature to lust after others, despite other obligations. If you act on your lust however, its definitely not acceptable.

    But being a girl (and being bisexual) i always tell my boyfriend that if hes looking for a bit of excitement, lets just do a threesome! lol.
    But if hes not careful about how he asks me :P There will be hell to pay.

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