Is it normal to feel down about being 30, the seven year itch & anxious at work

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Hi, I'm really struggling at the mo so any advice will be appreciated. Ok here goes.....I am 30 years old (31 next week) and have been with my partner 8 years in sept. We live together and are are going on a fab holiday in sept together. I have always felt anxious around men and since I started my current job about 16 months ago I have felt constantly anxious, as I work in a largely male company. It has made me feel so anxious it makes me question my relationship and my love for my partner. I didn't feel like this before I started working here. I also think I'm going through the 7 year itch and keep questioning myself and freaking out thinking things like I'm never going to have that first date or first kiss again and this is my life and it does feel scary. I am also very down about being 30/31 and keep reminiscing and thinking about my college days and my first ever boyfriend/first love when I was 17 at college and how life used to be back then. It all feels so long ago and it makes me sad I'm never going to be that young again, life was just fun and carefree back then. To be with my boyfriend I also moved town to live with him (only 1 hour away) and it also makes me feel sad that I don't live where I grew up.

Please could I have your advice. I know I am happy and I know I love my partner but all the anxiety and worry I'm going through at the mo is completely shadowing everything :0(

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    You think most people wouldn't like to be young again?
    Sure they would, but nobody has control over time.
    All of your past experiences make you the person that you are today, and you will carry your memories with you forever.
    Whenever I get depressed about aging, I just think about all the billions of people who have lived and died before I was ever born, and how they must have gone through similar feelings as me. It's incredibly humbling and you will feel more connected to history.
    And when I hear my parents talking about their childhood, I can hear the passion and regret and nostalgia in their voice, and I can see the glimmer in their eyes, like they're staring at the TV but their mind is a thousand miles away and 30 years ago. And I can understand that I'm not alone when I remember fondly of being young.
    We all get old but we continue to be the same person. We can't really change who we are, the fundamental essence of our character.
    There is no past, present, or future. Time is an endless chain of events.

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  • thr
    9 years ago

    I can't see how that's not normal.

    I'm 28, and I also think about and am saddened by time passing and youth moving further into the past.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    You must look forward, not back. All that has gone before is, as stated, gone; good memories, but of no real value in the life you are living. Work is work, if you don't enjoy your job. Try to find something you enjoy doing each and every day, and make that your profession. It sounds as though your current job will give you some stress related illness. Money is not that important!
    A great many terrific marriages die when the woman reaches 30/31, because she believes that she is missing something in her life, that she really isn't. It is important to understand that this is a just phase and it will pass.
    All that being said, I sincerely believe that absolutely the saddest thing for a person would be to be on one's deathbed, regretting the things one hasn't done in life.

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