Is it normal to feel disbelief that someone died even if you weren't close?

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I know someone, (who's part of my family), who died. I love him, but to be honest I was never close to him. We lived in separate countries and I hardly ever saw him. He passed away yesterday, and I know his suffering has ended so that's why I'm not really sad. I've got this feeling though, and it's like I can't comprehend that he's dead, like I know I will never talk to him again, but I don't feel anything from this. is it normal that I am not a tiny bit sad? Am I in a denial stage? I remember when my cat died, I COULD actually believe it, but how come I can't believe this death. Is it because he's human and my cat was an animal? Is it normal to feel disbelief that someone died even if you weren't that close to them?

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  • myownopinions
    12 years ago

    Out of sight, out of mind. It is a literal concept. Unless you actually where physically next to him around this time or saw his corpse, then hi death is not likely to effect you. Normal.

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  • NeuroNeptunian
    12 years ago

    Yeah, but I don't call it disbelief. It's called Apathy.

    When people that are close to us die, it's not just their death that upsets us. It's like we're losing a part of OUR lives. If he was never truly a part of your life, then by his death, you lose nothing. We become sad when we have actually lost something, but from what it sounds like, you lost something that was so insignificant to your life that you can't feel the full grief one feels when they lose someone important to their lives.

    You're not in denial and it is nothing to be ashamed of. He wasn't a big part of your life or anything. You didn't lose much of anything. Now if it was your spouse, parent or child then maybe I'd be concerned if I were you over this apathy but under these circumstances, no worries.

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  • Just_feed_me_Troll_Meat
    12 years ago

    Sounds as if you were somewhat sexually attracted to him? Are you planning on engaging in necrophilia with his corpse?

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    • missdoggify6
      12 years ago

      Wow, titf troll

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  • Noodleflower
    12 years ago

    In just very sensitive and care about everyone I'm sure that's what you got too:) sorry for your lost also:(

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