Is it normal to feel depressed/unhappy and even suicidal because i am single??

i am 18 nearly 19 never had a gf and am still a virgin. i go clubbing once a week yet i never pull. i dance and whtnot but girls look at me disgusted and not a single one has ever approached me. all of my friends have dates except me.

i am extremely ugly (this isn't self confidence because i know i am ugly) i am skinny 6'2 170lbs and really really pale. combine that with blonde hair and blue eyes and i basically look albino.

anyways, all of my friends are getting on with their lives, they have career prospects and more importantly have relationships. they make fun of me because i am the only virgin out of my group and the only guy without a gf.

this has made my really shy and quiet and don't know what to do. my life sucks and dont know how to change. i constantly unhappy and nervous of new people.

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Comments ( 12 )
  • Anime7

    Believe it or not, there is a girl out there who will find you attractive. A tall blonde person, that doesn't sound ugly at all. Ignore what your friends say and try to live your life. I'll tell you a little something about myself that may provide you with some insight. I'm 17 and a virgin, but I still live my life and have some self-confidence. The reason that my spirit isn't crushed is because I know that there is a girl out there who will appreciate a guy like me, just as there is a girl who will appreciate you. Going out to clubs isn't the best way to meet women unless your intention is to lose your virginity by anonymity. The moment will not be magical, it would just be a moment in time when you gave up something that could never be returned to someone who probably won't even remember it. My suggestion would be to distance yourself from your friends and focus on meeting people who care about you. Go to places where other women are sure to have the same interests as you. Once you see a girl that captures your eye, try to establish a conversation with her. There are plenty of women who are in the same situation as you. I'm sure that someday, the moment will come when you meet a wonderful who will see just how much a good catch you are. Peace.

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    • lecitone

      I have to say that ,you're an interesting person.

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      • Anime7

        Thank you, I appreciate it. Seriously, thanks.

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  • fullhouse

    There are ugly girlz out there.. You just need to be open for it :-P
    Jokes apart, being ugly is nit a crime, having low self confidence is.. Get your confidence back and you'll be attractive for a girl. Suicidal thoughts are dangerous and you should see a psychiatrist..

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  • commoner

    You don't have to be suicidal about this...

    There are plenty of other things you could pick to be suicidal over.

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  • TheBunnie

    I think you may be comparing yourself to your other friends too much. Believe me, I know what it feels like to be surrounded by people who are dating someone when you're alone. But honestly I know it's hard, but for the time being you should worry more about you and take care of yourself in a way that you think will improve your self esteem. Try new looks, go for different clothes you've always wanted to buy. At this point you're only 18 coming on 19, and believe it or not I know people who are several years older than you and are STILL virgins. A lot of people seem to feel strained to go ahead and get it over with at your age. Since you seem to be shy, I encourage you meeting a girl who's also your same age and is also shy. Girls may tend to assume that the guy they're with may not be a virgin, but if you are a virgin, it's not a thing to be ashamed of in the least... In fact, many girls find that to be a good trait, myself included.

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  • MarathonMan1990

    Get along with a hooker. You just want to have sex. So either through your looks or through money. Don't try to be competitive with others for everything.

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  • There's no reason to feel suicidal over this, believe me. You're young and you can live your life how YOU want, not how others feel you should.

    Basically, love and relationships are nice but they are tough to maintain and sometimes, it's not all what it's cracked up to be. It can be overrated and it's not like the movies at all.

    Just... take your time, there's nothing wrong with that.

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  • kingsleycrowne

    Woah man feeling suicidal over this is a total over reaction. You're still so young. And dont ever underestimate personal freedom! Some people I know got locked into full time relationships around your age right up to their late 20s and never properly experienced life with the freedom being single brings. Change your heart and look around you!

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  • ccjigsaw

    I'm a girl and I'm the type that would go for a guy with a great personality. So if you feel that you are unattractive and you also have a bad personality, then your out of luck. Looks aren't everything. You are not going to find a girl that will even take a second look at you in a bar or a club, because they won't take the chance to get to know you, they're just there to get fucked. In any term you want to take that in. Which means looks ARE everything in that environment. I don't know where you live, but something I notcied where I live (and I never knew this before!) But casinos seem to be a big pick up place. I get hit on there alot (Kinda hate it) But it's a good place to strike up a conversation with somebody, and really try to sell the personality side. One last peice of advice, if you exude an aura of "I want to get laid" it's going to freak people out and push them away. So just relax and work on trying to have a nice conversation with a girl, lower your intentions to "Just a date would be nice" and you might get somewhere. Good luck :)

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  • NeuroNeptunian

    Your friends need to put up or shut up. They either need to get you laid or shut the fuck up. Men aren't all stallions but you can't be nearly as bad as you think you are. And you're probably not going to meet your type of woman in a club. You're type of woman is probably hanging out at a college, a cafe behind a laptop, or in a public park reading or admiring the scenery.

    The club scene isn't working out for you - many of the women there are looking for a stallion to ride home for the night if you know what I am saying. If your looks don't get the girl, your personality will have to and that will take you longer but the woman that you pull in will be so much better than a club-bimbo. Work on being yourself and improving yourself, put yourself in a situation to meet good people - which will more than likely be in an environment that better suits you - and unless you have no personality at all, someone will come along and notice ;) Ask my husband.

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  • nospinzone74

    Start working out. Put your energy into improving yourself. Eat healthy and lots of protein. You'll get a nice physique.

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