Is it normal to feel bummed out after going on facebook / getting snapchats

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Having a rough start at uni- i started in the middle of the year so everyones made friends. No one to live with next year as current flat have already found a house. Flat is quite friendly but very 'staying in' and uncommunal- no meals together/ hanging out together. As a result Im pretty on my ownsome this term. One of my 2 best friends used to be so close to me- shes not a horrible person and is sensitive to how people feel. However she knows im having a hard time but continually sends me snapchats and videos of her and her boyfriend and friends doing crazy things and never chats casually to me anymore. our other BF also finds it annoying but she's miles away. Its almost wierd- snapchats are supposed to chat to friends- not to present your life without any message. Feel both taken for granted and like a completely pathetic loser when I get off the phone to her to the point i dread talking to her and hearing how amazing her life is. I know she doesnt need me anymore which really hurts. I never talk to her about it as I can only come across sounding bitter and jealous.
p.s. all 3 of usbeen bestfriends since 1 yrs old.

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  • Avant-Garde
    9 years ago

    Why don't you join a club? Universities often have student clubs/groups. Your university should have a page listing those groups/clubs on their website.

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  • KeepsakeDoll
    9 years ago

    You feel miserable because you keep comparing your life and happiness with your friend's. Just take time to find something enjoyable for you to do and vent when needed.

    On a side note, you can also ask your friend to not talk about her life because you're depressed about your own.

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  • Faceless
    9 years ago

    Sell drugs. You'll get lots of friends.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Sounds like that old green eyed monster's got ya down. It's best not compare your insides to someone else's outside's. You're wasting too much energy on this when you could be studying and pursuing self enlightenment via extracurricular activities of your own choosing.

    Your friend is probably not trying to make you feel jealous or insecure, but rather wanting to share the joy of her new found relationship with you via social media. Lots of people get swept up when they're in a new love relationship, but I'm reasonably sure that she's not doing it to spite you.

    Cheer up, they'll probably breakup in a few months and then she'll probably be miserable or not. They might live happily ever after, who knows. They just might, but they probably won't ...but they might.

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  • Thatguy777
    9 years ago

    I feel you on being stuck on your own. At least you have more people to talk to. I'm at a community college with no good clubs, and nobody wants to socialize. I've spent the past year all on my own and I'm used to it now.

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  • patsox123
    9 years ago

    Of course it's normal. I too have been in similar situations where, your new, feel out of place, and gets lonely. However, you can't let it get to you. Your loneliness isn't a reflection on you, you're just in a bit of a rut. My best advice to improve your situation would be to find a club or something to join.

    There are plenty of people I know that I envied when going on fb, that I just don't care about anymore. If you keep a positive attitude it'll get better.

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  • DangerousPotatoGuy
    9 years ago

    Get yourself out there, I'm sure you'll find better friends.

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    So your friend is enjoying life to spite you and documenting it on Facebook.

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  • Riddler
    9 years ago

    Yes, you are an idiot that fell for face books madness. Good for you! How very mature. What an adult. Facebook made me sad because I don't have neat pictures to post, I didn't watch my children because I was playing on Facebook, I am going to treat people like shit because I feel bad ass on Facebook. Well guess what? You are a pathetic cunt. How Facebook seems to bring out the worst in people I will never understand but it always seems to and that is why I stopped going. Here is a simple solution to your issue. BE AN ADULT.

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