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Is it normal to feel bad about cutting off a friend that became a jerk. That you normally liked anyways but they just wouldn't stop.
We're all jerks in one way or another. To find someone who isn't would be weird, like meeting someone who doesn't like music.
There are people from my past that I no longer associate with, for good reasons. But I have times where I feel sentimental about times we had, and consider re-evaluating my feelings towards them. But I think it's important sometimes to move on. Sure, forgive if there is enough of a case there for forgiveness, a forgiving nature not forged in heavy grudges is something to aspire to, but I also think that some decisions are for the best and must stand. It's part of our growth and social development. Use your judgement and if you had your reasons, stick by your guns and don't second guess yourself.
No because they usually come around when they get the message or I'll end up contacting them out of the blue one day. Sometimes people are just jerks in spurts.
Just think with a level head before making decisions. There are some people you regret letting go of for the rest of your life. Why do you think this person is a jerk?
When I cut people off its usually become they become rude pricks or just become possessive and overly paranoid. I try to dismiss it to a point but after awhile I cut them off.
"It's usually because..."? How often do you cut off people? Have you thought about your part in whatever is making them possessive and overly paranoid? Have you ever discussed this with them in a caring manner? Have you made them feel secure so that they don't have a reason to be possessive and overly paranoid? Think about it - why would you feel guilty about it if you did? Is it just a general fear of commitment or opening up on your part? Is it any part your responsibility or is it always 100% on the part of the other person and you were acting perfect the entire time? Is there something else to it that has nothing to do with the person who you used to like who somehow transformed into a rude prick or possessive and overly paranoid?
I'm not trying to pass judgement or seem like I feel one way or the other about it, I'm just anonymously playing devil's advocate. I hope you don't take my questions as something to get defensive about. They are not meant personally, just as things to think about, and if you know the answer to them right away and resolutely, then good. Otherwise, it's there for you to think about.
No people usually turn into pricks after awhile. I usually want to give them the benefit of a doubt but some people you cant help after awhile.
People become like this when they are on bottom and suddenly have someone pay attention to them. Which eventually goes to their head and become pricks.
Example "Shy quiet guy cant get a girlfriend" than gets one and is a prick to all his friends, his mates and treats every girl he meets like they belong in a trashcan. Unless of course they are dating them.
It's never easy to burn a bridge, even a shitty one. You worked to build that bridge.
I regret cutting people from my life as well, but there comes a time when you realize it's not worth it. If someone only hurts you then why hold on to them?
I know your experiences are probably different from my own but you should know you deserve better than to be constantly hurt by the same person. It's normal to regret it.
You'll get over it. I've had to cut off a few jerks. I didn't realize that I really liked something in them, but whatever I liked about them wasn't in charge of how they acted..