Is it normal to feel apathetic but still regret for past negative emotions?

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This might be an arbitary question but I've been thinking about it a bit recently. I've been feeling very apathetic recently. I smile and laugh with with friends, and I mean those emotions, but I don't express any sort of negative emotion. And I feel a heavy regret for previous negative emotions I expressed when I was younger. Like when I was a teenager (admittedly only 2 years ago). I feel very stupid for ever having cried in front of someone and very ashamed of ever having gotten mad at anyone. I feel embarassed of very small random memories and they kind of haunt me sometimes, for some strange reason. I feel bad for ever having opened up to someone, like a friend I put trust into, an ex girlfriend, or a close family member. Sound pretty normal to anyone?

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  • [Old Memory]
    11 years ago

    the pain that is buried from long ago can feel like a burning rock inside, i think the antidote is to open up more, the child cannot be ignored for ever

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  • SomehowSomething
    11 years ago

    Normal. You should never show anyone your real emotions; fake them so they match the other person. They will think you are the same, and will like you.

    And yes, you should feel bad for ever opening up to another person; it`s pathetic, and will not do you any good.

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    • Mmmpfh
      11 years ago

      Depressing. O_o

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  • Acerbic
    11 years ago

    I wouldn't say it's exactly 'normal' but many others including myself are this way. There are uncountable reasons for it.
    A lot of previous generations, men especially, were raised to believe emotional outbursts were only for the weak. There are others that felt taken advantage of and therefore started to feel their percieved lack of emotional control as disgusting. There are simply too many causes to name.
    It should be noted that of course it is untrue that all highly emotional people are weak- it can be very commendable to possess the courage and confidence to be emotionally vulnerable around others. This is something I've personally been trying to accomplish for years.
    You choose to hold yourself to whichever standards you wish, but if you've not yet come to terms with the underlying reasons as to why you feel like this, it will probably continue to bother you until you do.
    In closing, it's normal to be emotionally repressed and it's normal to not be; whichever way you feel is best for you. =)

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