Is it normal to feel ambivalent towards one/multiple of your sexual interests?

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Probably a silly question, however i am wondering if this is common or simply just due to a handful of them being considered a bit strange or shunned upon despite being relatively 'normal'.
It could just be that due to getting shit for them i am periodically between accepting it for what they are and perpetual embarassment at differing intervals in time.
How normal is this?

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yourmindisfuckedup

7 years ago

I just seen a teenager crash his skateboard!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  A irrelevant comment but the spontaneity and randomness of it got a laugh out of me regardless.
  
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Ellenna

7 years ago

What are you talking about?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  It was left ambiguious on purpouse because there is a handfull of them.
  That and the ambiguity left the post short and to the point.
  
  In short it's mostly related to the majority of my sexual interest's being mostly non-standard or deemed 'weird' or odd or 'wrong' despite nothing illegal or immoral at all. (Well, the feasible one's anyway as there is about a handful that as far as reality goes is, well. That's what a imagination is good for! Even then there is a lack of illegal and or immoral interests)
  And being capable of just accepting it for what it is but due to getting shit for some of them in the past kind of...well. I seem to have developed a sense of ambivalence about it all on top of feeling awkward about nearly every single one being non-standard.
  
  One is non-standard but not entirely uncommon; cannot say as much about the rest however.
  
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KingRabbit

7 years ago

Non standard? That could mean one of a thousand things. And it likely means something different to everyone reading this stupid post. You have sex. We get it. All of it is standard in its nonstandardness.

Here is your issue, you have no emotional connection to your sexual acts. Chances are some aren't sexual. Chances are, some are sexual but not arousing.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  The question was more a general question to be honest, to be treated on an as-is basis.
  
  Not to be intended as an analysis of specific's.
  
  *Shrugs*
  
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  - heckleBucker2
    
    7 years ago
    
    With a guarded sense of facetiousness, as well as a captivating interest in the abnormal, I have read your post and comments. To this point, you have described obtuse and contradictory connections between inflictions possibly associated with conclusions, or assumptions regarding preferences, as well as varying perceptions of shame associated with standard vs non-standard sexual expectations. Or, some ambivalent thing like that. Embarrassed apprehension and willy-nilly verbiage seem to be the hallmark of your personal style.
    
    I will say this. ITS ALL ABOUT SQUIRTING YOUR JIZZ, MAN. Fucking stroke your cock for God's sake!!!!!!!!!!!!!
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      Unintentionally contradicting via omition of information maybe.
      
      You have a point but at the same time it is still awkward having to explain at the end of the day.
      Get enough shit for the more normal and you expect a overdramatic reaction to the things that are definitely strange/unusual. Ect.
      Maybe that's just a overthinking thing?
      
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      - Dad_sucks
        
        7 years ago
        
        Maybe you should SQUIRT YOUR JIZZ at the end of the day. The expectation is that white gooey stuff will cum out of your cock.
        
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    - Dad_sucks
      
      7 years ago
      
      The OP is that "Dad" guy that has scrambled eggs for a brain. He is also a ex-religious creep that likes fucking underage boys in the butt.
      
      Note to MI-6. Get the OP's IP address, find him and terminate his existence.
      
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      - Anonymous Post Author
        
        7 years ago
        
        Ehem.
        One: I have never been religous.
        Two: I have never felt attraction to anybody underage.
        Three: The post was pretty ambiguious on purpose; but not for that reason.
        Bonus fourth: I have never been a parent nor knocked anybody up. If i had i'm pretty sure i'd know about it.
        
        Also i quite clearly said later on in a comment that some things (in my case actualy most) 'involve using an imagination coupled with narrative' was mostly a attempt at implying most things i could get me off are either physically impossible or just simply, you know, NOT real.
        
        I meerly only stated one of the far fewer in number attractions namely the one i got the most shit for, coupling that with a tendency to think too much and too into things i overanalyse trivialities have lead to me being pretty hyperaware of my own lack of normality in this sense. After all if i get that much shit for the more 'normal' things then you tend to be a bit critcal of your own interest's.
        
        Also it's not so much scrambled eggs for a brain as it is one that likes thinking too much into things.
        
        The post was meant as an ambiguious yes/no general thing.
        Not a psychoanalysis of my own interests (i do that enough on my own)
        
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  - KingRabbit
    
    7 years ago
    
    Problem:There is no "is".
    
    Have you even had sex? Like with a real penis in a vagina? Or is that what you mean by nonStandard. Perhaps you identify as a gay person so that would be nonstandard to a gay person.
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      Somewhere around the bisexual mark is probably a more accurate description. If 'sexual' even fits at all given my lack of actual sexual drive to begin with...
      
      But what you described does indeed do very little for me.
      On that one point it applies a lot and is probably a tad weird for somebody with bisexual leanings to avoid such.
      
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MethSmokingSatanist

7 years ago

By the ambiguity of your posting it sounds like you feel bad that most of your love interests are underage girls... Other than that I really cant make sense of what you're saying.

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Actually no.
  Just get shamed for something enough times your probably bound to feel iffy about it, maybe.
  The ambiguity was on purpose relating to the question more than what i am attracted to in itself.
  I tend to gravitate towards people i find interesting personalty wise more than physicality wise because finding people nice on a aesthetic level? Sure genuinely physically atracted? Not a lot.
  The main one in question being the thing i often get shamed for the most: Those i do tend to find attactive tend to be more on the chubbier slash lightly overweight side of things. It's not fun getting shit for it and it's downright embarrassing when people jump to far fetched conclusions than i'd do stuff i wont. (Which to be honest the idea of inflicting such things on somebody is mildly nauseating for me so getting accused of bring such a person gets super old really quickly)
  Nothing illegal to be seen. Just a embarrassing sense of shame over various things.
  The most normal of which has surprisingly lead to the most ambivalence.
  
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RoseIsabella

7 years ago

What do you mean?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  In short pretty much nearly every interest of mine in this regard is non-standard.
  You get shamed for things and sometimes end up questioning yourself because apparrently it's 'not normal' or 'weird' and you sometimes wind up thinking about how abnormal they seem to others and one is often left feeling embarassed over your apparrent lack of normality.
  Or just eventually just feel so apprehensive about just saying it in the end you turn into a puddle of embarassment because on one hand you'd like to say the things but on the other your so used to negative reaction you just...
  I'unno feel slightly ashamed for even being interested in such things in the first place you feel guilty over your own interests.
  
  It was meant more as a general question however that 'is it normal to feel embarassed over being interested in this or that' ect.
  
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here2help

7 years ago

what are you uncertain about toward your interests?

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  Mostly the fact that every single one is non-standard and on top if that not being inherently that sexual at all to begin with i tend to get regarded weirdly.
  
  In the case of one in particular people alays expect it to be a extreme case rather than slightly mild and non-exclusive, which is a real bother because it only makes the situation faaaar more awkard. Alas that is one of the more comon of the lot.
  
  I'm like a person of many minority interests it seems. Many of which just have to be left up to a good imagination with a slice of narrative. But alas you don't get to really choose what your into.
  
  I'm fine with sexual favours for others in relationships and the like but in regards to me entirely i'm apparrently pretty odd and, well. Not a lot of things do it for me so to speak. It gets a bit...Embarassing having to explain and then get regarded as weird/odd/strange often with a dose of being shamed for things i have no relative control over and its like' yeah, thanks for the vote of confidence' and then i get embarassed about ever having opened my mouth in the first place.
  
  After enough occourences it can lead to conflict of thoughts at times.
  Or something to that effect.
  
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  - here2help
    
    7 years ago
    
    so let me get this straight.
    
    you are timid about your sexual drive toward people you are attracted to and this in turn makes it an issue in day to day interactions?
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      In short it can be yes, but mostly because i'm so used to getting shit for it it's really embarassing.
      
      Although in the past having to diffuse and argue against incorrect assumptions almost every time something like this come's up with other people because somebody else has to jump to conclusions and be a dick.
      In ONE particular case i was even given shit by somebody who knew about my particular preference leaning about finding a more petite person pretty damn cute. They jumped to conclusions assuming that i'd do this or that when in reality i found it quite appalling they'd jump to such a conclusion (although albeit one that is apparrently a thing. Just not my thing)
      
      So talk as i may i often I'unno feel weird and super awkward about initiating anything.
      Because at this point i practically feel some sense of being judged no matter what. It's just happened that many time's i'm just hyperaware of it.
      Which probably just makes it even more awkward.
      
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      - paulthepoes
        
        7 years ago
        
        Your perpetual procrastination is quite disturbing to me....
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        7 years ago
        
        I'm just by now pretty good at speaking ambiguosly if not a tad crypically and leaving out anything super substancial while (trying at least) to get my point across.
        
        Nothing disturbing really or illegal...bbbbuuuuuut i suppose that also depends on what you classify as illegal.
        
        There are several things that come under the umbrella topic of this post 'o mine.
        Three can be applied in real life. (But are kinda very niche)
        The others? Nope!
        .....But i guess it all depends on what you find disturbing but there is a high chance none of it is disturbing at all.
        
        If you take a gander at my other responses you'll find some surefire hints towards something i have a (albeit no exclusive but still a definite leaning) preference for that i have also got a lot of shit for that is lumped under this post too and was admittedly the sort-of main focus because holy shit has the rants i got on the topic has been pretty bad and definite shaming.
        Which is hilarious because very much liking the idea of some of the stuff that comes under 'alas imagination only' is much much stranger in comparison.
        
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      - here2help
        
        7 years ago
        
        dont be so self conscious. tell the haters to fuck off, theyre cockblocking you because they know you'll actually pleasure a woman. just ask them out and go from there, if they say no then dont sweat it
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        7 years ago
        
        Also thank you for your input! It took a while to get back to this but your input on this was/is useful and cerainly more useful than arguing with myself about it. (now that i mention it that sole reason was pretty much why i made this post to get an outside opinion on this matter)
        
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        Anonymous Post Author
        
        7 years ago
        
        As far as being self conscious goes i can try (it's a bit shaky but there is always just winging it and hoping for the best) i have no issue with rejections and can take that part quite well.
        I'm a bit of a 'not much you can do about that unless it's either theese two things' when it comes to real life things and not just a use of imagination (and even then my sexual drive is a bit lackluster) and i am the sort to ask what makes the other tick so to speak and find a workaround if their drive is much higher than my own.
        I have been told that that in itself is weird and 'really not normal' but eh it is what it is.
        
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