Is it normal to feel alone and comfortable with someone at the same time?

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The only person I feel so good and comfortable with is the guy I've been talking to for a while. Nothing makes me more happy than knowing I'll be with him and spending time with him. I used to come from school and we would hang out at his place and watch Netflix. Now that schools over cause we graduated, I moved back home and he stayed there which is like 2 and half hrs away. We have seen each other twice and when I'm with him, I feel at home again. But the weird thing is he also makes me feel alone like I can't be my entire self with him. When I am, he'll ignore it or I think that's just him. He's not conceited or anti-social but in a way, he doesn't have much interest in other people, just selected few like his family or his best friend and sometimes I think me but he has a crappy way of showing it. But when I'm around friends I can be myself around with at home, I just don't feel that homy vibe I feel when I'm with him and over there where I went to school. I think def part of it has to do with the fact I miss it over there and my mind and heart haven't left it although physically I have. But like 90% of the reason why is because of him. He has visit me but after hanging out here, we went back to his place. I felt better being with him there than here. So I'm not sure what this feeling or situation is but when I start thinking about it, it's usually when I feel alone at home. My friends and i hang out but I'm not completely happy because I miss him. But then I think about the unhappiness I feel when I am with him which is being insecure and alone, I start asking then why I do I feel such emptiness when I'm not around him if when I do get to be around him, I feel alone? Maybe i prefer to be alone with him than just completely alone. I mean I really do like him and possibly love him that I want us to be settle already like make sure we are meant to be and that way, we can work to make a living together. Plus, make sure that there are no distractions along the way and we'll know that at the end it'll me and him. So this strong feeling of mine makes me feel happy with him but in reality, sometimes I feel alone with him. But he makes me happier than anything else right now.

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  • deepthought33
    9 years ago

    I can understand this feeling. It seems like the overall dynamics between me and my ex. There was love and comfort with him. I looked forward to being with him, but I didn't really feel like myself and he always had to comment or call me out when I did show my true self and eventually I just kept it to myself.
    So, I could be contentedly chilling on the couch and at the same time be feeling alone behind this wall I allowed myself to build.

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  • deadtea
    9 years ago

    You've really thought it through from what I can see. If you still can't find the answer on your own, I don't think anyone here can help. It sounds like he's a great guy but if you feel something missing when you're with him, you might want to reconsider being with him as a boyfriend. Just like you said, he's the best thing *so far* - maybe there are better opportunities ahead of you? Or maybe you're in fact missing the old setting, the school and all things involved. Maybe you two actually are meant for each other but something is just distracting you? There are a lot of possibilities and you're the only person who can figure it out.

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