Is it normal to fantasize about other people while having sex?

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This happened to me back in college- a girl I was dating was mumbling my name and my roommate's name while we were having sex. It really put me off, so I stopped and asked her why she was doing that. She said she was just fantasizing and not to worry about it. On we went and she had an incredible orgasm- and for the first time in my life I actually faked an orgasm. The next time same thing and I asked her to please stop saying his name. We ended up getting into an argument and a couple weeks later broke up. The thing is she never flirted with my roomie or showed any interest in him and he had absolutely no interest in her.

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42% Normal
Based on 33 votes (14 yes)
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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    She's a bit of a cunt if she's shouting out someone elses name during sex.

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    • modernism
      8 years ago

      Only a bit?

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    • RoseIsabella
      8 years ago

      You read my mind.

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  • Aries
    8 years ago

    If she liked multiple partners that's her preference and it's okay but since it wasn't enjoyable for you I am not quite sure why she continued ? I know I probably wouldn't want some woman doing that and not because of being jealous or anything because I am pretty great with that sort of thing .. I just am not into two guys and a girl scenarios so it would be distracting for me and I wouldn't be able to get into whatever role or head space she was in . I wouldn't understand the need to be forced into participating .. I think you made the right choice for yourself and I haven't heard much of this happening before so ill vote no , not normal but maybe the studies show otherwise .. not sure .

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  • RoseIsabella
    8 years ago

    Shame you didn't get her dry in the arse for being a selfish, skanky cunt!
    :-)

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    • RoseIsabella
      8 years ago

      P.S. Another good resolution to the problem, but it would have taken a lot of sexual self control on your part, would have been to stop with the sex and kick her out of your dorm or apartment buck ass naked and throw her clothes at her then slam the door in her face for being such a stupid cunt. Girls like that don't deserve incredible orgasms.

      You could say something clever like, "bitch you got to go"!

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  • [Old Memory]
    8 years ago

    I sometimes say the names of other women while fucking my mom. Does that count?

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  • thegypsysailor
    8 years ago

    Ain't the male ego a fragile thing?

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  • bigguy1944
    8 years ago

    When I have sex with my wife I fantasize about other women like her sister, best friend and sometimes one of our neighbors. Although I don't call out their names the sex is great just thinking of them

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  • victorygin
    8 years ago

    That's rude and selfish. But maybe you should have just done the same thing; started saying someone else's name. Then you're both having sex with each other, both openly pretending it's someone else... bizarre.

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  • harukim
    8 years ago

    She wasn't being honest with you. You gave her a chance to admit her fantasy, but she didn't. In this case it is good you broke up.

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  • Shackleford96
    8 years ago

    Fuck no, I'd be pissed!

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  • (s)aint
    8 years ago

    Normal to think about other people from time to time.
    Not normal to mumble/say their names.
    Sort of the same thing with porn, me and my boyfriend enjoy porn but neither one of us is going to shove it up each others faces and let them know who we are watching.
    That´s just plain rude.

    Unless it´s a person we know our partner would get turned on watching as well. We got a few of those.

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  • theseeker
    8 years ago

    Seems like she really wasn't that into you if she was thinking about other people during sex. Good thing the relationship ended.

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