Is it normal to fantasize about my ex?

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I don't like him or love him, we dated long distance for a little over a month literally a month ago. I rarely agreed with him, he was frustrating to come to terms with. He would get butthurt over everything, he broke up with me because he thinks he'll "hurt me" because his ex messed him up. I'm not saying she didn't, but he only hurt me when he used his fear of hurting me as an excuse to leave just saying 🤷🏻‍♂️ I used to miss him, but now I don't, I don't feel anything really.

But I still want to be with him, sexually. He's like really hot, and he's a year younger than me. He's kind of a little bitch too. I know I'm not that much older, but if I could, I would totally dominate him. I'm like really sexually attracted to him, I guess it's a result of all those conversations about wanting to do things to eachother. Like I said, I don't love him or want to get back together. But he's fine as hell, and I still think about fucking.

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  • walkingdildo
    6 years ago

    Very normal. My first girlfriend was a year and a half older than me and gave amazing blowjobs and always swallowed, and her pussy tasted amazing.

    She was a horrible person, though, so although I sometimes fantasize about smashing her, I never could.

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  • [Old Memory]
    6 years ago

    My ex used the same strategy.
    Don't go for "it's not you, it's me" crap or "I'm so hurt by my ex I can't love again" manipulation.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      6 years ago

      I know, right? it's bullshit.

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      • [Old Memory]
        6 years ago

        You're better off without him.

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  • svirfneblin
    6 years ago

    Wow, that's complex! But. YEP: it's all normal.

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  • Ellenna
    6 years ago

    It's normal but the one time I found myself sexually attracted to someone I disliked intensely it felt very weird and didn't end well.

    Fantasising about him is keeping you attached to someone you know is bad for you, so the solution is obvious. At times when you're not sexually aroused, ake up some other fantasies which don't involve him, the hotter the better, and switch your mind to them instead.

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  • rayb12
    6 years ago

    Just demand he come over so you can sit on his face

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  • Pumpurrnickel
    6 years ago

    It's not normal to still want to have sex with him. You should move on. It won't make anything better to keep fantasizing about him.

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  • redrainbow22
    6 years ago

    ewwwww female domination

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    • RoseIsabella
      6 years ago

      Male domination isn't any better.

      Call me crazy, but I think the ideal is when two people are equals.

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      • redrainbow22
        6 years ago

        At least male domination in some way seems natural.

        I like equal too :) But female domination, ewwwwww

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        • RoseIsabella
          6 years ago

          Male domination doesn't seem natural to me in the least. The thought of some bastard trying to dominant me makes me want to buy a gun. No one has the right to attempt to dominate me or anyone else who isn't interested that sort of stupid fetish.

          Regarding OP's weird little fantasies, I think it's a bad thing, because it's just a way for her to maintain her attraction to this guy and not move on with her life. I'm sure he's a little bitch and probably a bastard of sorts as well, and I wouldn't be surprised if this whole mess is a result of her resentments against her ex coupled with her physical attraction to him.

          I think OP ought to let it go, move on with her life and seek out someone new who's, "fine as Hell". However I do think she ought to take time to heal from the loss of the relationship, and understand that her ex is an ex for a reason.

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          • redrainbow22
            6 years ago

            lol XD thats a fetish? i thought we were just talking about masculinity? lol

            that sounds like what it is

            sounds like she doesnt care for him but is just lusting after him

            i really dont think shes hurting much XD

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            • RoseIsabella
              6 years ago

              Naw, she may very well be hurting. I think it's natural to want revenge upon someone that hurt you. I think she wants to dominate him because she wants to put him in his place. I think it would be normal and natural for her to want to exact revenge upon someone who hurt her.

              I do, however, think that it's completely counter productive for her to waste time with these fantasies, because the fantasies keep her stuck wanting him in one way or another. Like I've said a bunch of times before an ex is an ex for a reason.

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    • rayb12
      6 years ago

      This opinion is intolerable here.

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      • redrainbow22
        6 years ago

        Are you saying what I'm saying is intolerant, or it cant be tolerated?

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        • rayb12
          6 years ago

          It will not be tolerated.

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          • redrainbow22
            6 years ago

            Tolerate whatever you want

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