Is it normal to fancy someone emotionally but not physically?

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I cannot stop thinking about my housemate. We make sense together, we have similar interests and thoughts on life. I love watching him when he's confident or is talking about serious things and I love when he towers over me, looking down at me. I look forward to him coming home and miss him when Im away. However I can't think about him sexually. He just isn't sexy. He doesn't turn me on. However the first time I met his friend, my heart skipped a beat. His friends face was perfect (not in the conventional male-model sense, but in some kind of instant connection sense).His friend makes me wet just thinking about him pushing me up against a wall and .... I fancy this friend emotionally too but we don't have such a connection. Does anyone else get this or has felt something similar? Emotional for one person and physical for another. Comments please !

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  • Goomats
    8 years ago

    Yes, some men are emotionally attractive. Some men are sexually attractive. One has to find a man who is at least a little bit both. I had a "crush" on a man I was not physically attracted to for years. It was a waste of time because A) he did not like me back B) I would not imagine having sex with him, only the G rated lovey stuff except when I had fantasies that his body had changed. It would have been an absolute disaster had he actually asked me out.

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  • Jubbly
    8 years ago

    I understand this wholly. In fact I was in this predicament very recently.

    All I can say to you is don't make a move on either if you're not sure.

    How can it possibly work out if you're not actually attracted to him? There's only so far you can go with talking.

    You never know, tomorrow you might fall for a new guy who is everything you want..

    But don't rush in to something you'll regret :)

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  • bluegreenpink
    8 years ago

    I am so glad i posted this - you are both so right - can't believe I was gonna try it with my friend. I think Im just looking for someone. anyone. waaaah.

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