Is it normal to expect things from others, just because they are your relative?

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My mate's older brother is a jobless, drug addict with three children(joint custody). He is living off of his girlfriend (whom can't have any children of her own), who owns a four bedroom house, has a job and pays for everything (including for this guy's kids).
My mate's brother and mother expect that my mate and I "help" them, every month with money.
His mother wants help, with money, to go out to the bar and to get her hair done at a high priced hair salon, among other things, every month.
My mate and I are trying to live together and start our lives together, we can't afford to help either of them.
I wasn't raised in this type of house. I was taught, since I am the oldest I am my brother's keeper and in that, I am his protector.
(Now, my brother lives in another country, has a great job and he is about to get married)
I am sorry, if this is done wrong, I have never posed a question online before
My question is:
Is it normal to expect things from others, just because they are your relative?

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Based on 44 votes (16 yes)
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  • RoseIsabella
    10 years ago

    Yes, unfortunately this is somewhat normal with certain types of people. I was married to someone with an awful family like this and he started acting like them so I got a divorce. Be careful in this situation.

    Now, if someone has a drug or alcohol problem I go in the opposite direction. I don't have time or money to waste on that bullshit. I save my pity and charity for children, animals, the elderly and infirm, wounded warriors, etc.

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