Is it normal to expect privacy

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Long story short, girlfriend and I are in LDR from 11th grade til now, but about 4 1/2 years ago moved in together. Lived on our own for two years, we would have my parents over for dinner and holidays, everyone got along. We ended up moving in with my parents, due to us needing new vehicles and I was starting college, we couldn't afford to have our own place. We each paid my parents $150 in rent plus $50 for utilities. On our room, we would leave dishes in there cause we were working 2nd shift, so my parents would go in to get dishes out, or to access back patio. Did it annoy me? Yes, a bit. But there my parents and not a huge deal. Did it piss my girlfriend off to no end? Yes. She believed since she was paying rent, that they should stay out completely, and I agree with that, and told my parents that we'll take care of the room, and for the most part we did. She started getting agitated by my parents all the time cause she felt they didn't respect her, and due to her attitude, they don't like her now. It's really getting out of hand, she moved back home, but we still want to be together. I love my family and I love her, but they really do not like each other, and it makes me feel so alone and stressed out. I don't want to break up with her, but I don't want to make it awkward for everyone at holidays for years to come.

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  • funlovingbitch
    7 years ago

    Parents are over protective my eldest chid moved back in after his marriage broke down.he pays £50 per week washing food telephone and internet.but we do not go into his room.its his he pays for it . Your parents should respect you privacy

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    • Redbank07
      7 years ago

      That's how I feel too, but they're my parents so I don't feel right telling them to stay out, even though I wish they did, just to keep peace. Plus like you said, we're paying and should have privacy.

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  • MR.mr
    7 years ago

    This is a territory issue.
    She perceives it as het territory because she pays rent, your par rents perceptive it as theirs because it's their house. Both sides make valid points, the best thing to do would be get a place of your own together when the 2 of you can afford it.

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    • Redbank07
      7 years ago

      Thats how I see it too. I'm not really mad at either for this, but it's annoying being stuck in the middle.

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  • Redbank07
    7 years ago

    No doubt we were saving money, but I don't really blame my girlfriend for wanting privacy in our bedroom. We had on street parking and no cable, so just water and electricity are the only two utilities, and combined we put $100 a month into utilities.

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  • felixy
    7 years ago

    $150 rent and $50 utilities? That's practically charity. And getting fussy about having your room cleaned?

    There's some warning signs here far more relevant than an awkward Thanksgiving dinner table.

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    • Redbank07
      7 years ago

      That's each, so $400 for one bedroom.

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      • felixy
        7 years ago

        Not sure where I misplaced my last post, but they had to be making use of the bathrooms and kitchen and driveway as well. If cable, internet and electricity is included, $400 is a steal.

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        • charli.m
          7 years ago

          Oh, gypsyraffy.

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      • felixy
        7 years ago

        I'm going to assume that the parents didn't lock them out of all the bathrooms, or the kitchen either. Same goes for a driveway. It'd be a ludicrous setup otherwise.

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