Is it normal to envy love, but don't exactly want or need it?

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I like to think i want to fall in love one day, i like watching romantic movies, and i like seeing two people together and are happy. i think its wonderful, it can be so beautiful.

but i also think about how independent i am, and how being single seems to be okay. i'd have less freedom. the ball and chain. btw i'm a guy.

now even though i'm single i don't go to bars or strip clubs, i don't do one night stands, or do friends with benefits.

i'm really starting to question myself, who i am. what it is i truly want. and so much of me is uncertain.

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  • daydreamer394
    9 years ago

    I am pretty much the same, except I am female.

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  • αвαdσηтнєDєѕтяσуєя
    9 years ago

    I completely agree with thegypsysailor, a relationship is only equal to a ball and chain if you'd rather be out doing "single people" things, which you've already mentioned you aren't into anyway, even though you are single.

    Its quite said how most people, males mostly, believe that gaining a relationship will cost them their freedom. To me, that is a sign of not being ready to commit, and that is a sign of immaturity. In my earlier teens, say 14 to 17, I had a lot of relationships with a lot of guys who wanted to do "single people" things and didn't care less what I did with my time, so long as I didn't interfere with theirs. I was miserable.

    When I was 18, alittle over a year ago, I started a relationship and fell inlove with the best friend and kindest guy I know. We've been together for a year and a month, we live together, never fight and guess what? We have all the freedom in the world but we choose to spend our time together rather than go out drinking with friends like we're a couple of highschool kids. Relationships, the best kinds, are those where you can do and share everything with your significant other. I'm not chained down, I'm a better person.

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    You sound like me in some ways.

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  • handsignals
    9 years ago

    I feel the same way...

    ...about Gag Factor.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    Just what gives you the idea marriage and a wife correlates to a "ball and chain"? A marriage is what you make of it and it seems you'll be beginning yours (if and when) with a pretty poor attitude.
    A wife should be a partner, best friend, companion, lover and compatriot, and I don't see how any of that could be considered being chained to another. When I go out to the pub, I'd much rather go out with my girl than a bunch of noisy, obnoxious guys.
    I haven't lost the tiniest bit of "freedom" but I've gained a bestest friend and them some!

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