Is it normal to enjoy masturbation more than sex?

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I have only been having sex a few years, with only a few partners. I have a longterm boyfriend and our sex life is kind of stagnant, but I have always enjoyed the company of my vibrator more. I am worried I just might not like him or sex that much and I have never had an orgasm from sex so I am generally left unsatisfied unless he eats me out which, in all honesty isn't as great as taking care of myself. Maybe we need more foreplay, or just a good date or something, or maybe sadly, I just don't enjoy sex. I know its hard for most women to cum from penetration alone but most of the time it doesn't even feel good.

Do other women have this issue? How about men? Did I ruin myself by masturbating with a vibrator? Or hell, is using a vibrator better than sex in your guys' opinions?

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  • cocoapeaches
    9 years ago

    That's the only way it works for me, but as I said, I don't like it as much.

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  • Mersaphe
    9 years ago

    true for me because generally my imagination is more vivid than reality, and in real life one might feel disappointed about situations not meeting expectations, but anything can happen in your own head.

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  • sexysonofsam
    9 years ago

    I personally think your boyfriend is the problem, in my opinion he is a lazy lover and a useless cunt!

    I for one always make sure that my woman cums before I do. I will eat her pussy until she is crying in ecstasy before I use my dick on her!

    I sometimes even get her to cum twice before I satisfy my own needs!

    I like eating pussy so much that it is better than the actual deed of sex itself!

    I sometimes get my woman to cum twice then say goodnight and pretend that I am sleeping, when I hear that she is in deep sleep, I get up and masturbate, I usually remove the covers from her and use her nakedness to get me stimulated and to cum!

    There is nothing wrong with using a vibrator and I encourage you to carry on exploring your body! I am 53 and I know what works best for my penis!

    I also love it when my woman uses her vibrator whilst I am fucking her as I find it very erotic and stimulating! It actually makes her pussy pulsate whilst I am deep inside her and the feeling is great. I even encourage her to use it whilst we are fucking!

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    • cocoapeaches
      9 years ago

      Oddly enough I don't enjoy being eaten out all that much either even though he gets the job done when I do actually let him. Seriously thinking its just me turned off from sex completely, not even wanting to try it anymore. I guess it could be me being bitter about not having a real orgasm or something but I figure why bother if two double A's and online roleplay can get me further than he ever has.

      We both can be lazy but I would just rather masturbate or go unsatisfied at this point. I think the fact he's so annoying at times is acting as reverse foreplay... The more advice I get from this site the more I realize I am unhappy.

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  • Fish1973m
    9 years ago

    You could ask him to use the vibrator on you? Have you asked him or even do it yourself to rub your clit while he is pounding your pussy?

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    • cocoapeaches
      9 years ago

      God its awful having him use it on me -- no one has skills with it like yourself. I have and it's been more painful than anything.

      Sure I could use it while he does his thing, but I always imagined he'd get offended and personally I have brought myself to climax two or three times rubbing my clit but I have to be in a certain position and its never as good as my vibrator.

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      • Fish1973m
        9 years ago

        Have you told your bf what you want during sex? He should be able to rub your clit while in numerous position during penetration, I find it easy if the women is lying on her back with her legs wide apart and me pushing her legs up towards her upper body, he should then be able to reach your clit while also going to work on your pussy

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        • cocoapeaches
          9 years ago

          I thought it was me being funny when I told him this is the only way I can cum but glad someone else has the same experience. He acts like I've ruined myself by only being able to reach orgasm in this position and since losing our bed at the perfect height I haven't cum since during sex.

          He also tends to hurt me when he touches my clit so I'd rather just him get finished rather than touching me there.

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