Is it normal to end up comforting your boyfriend after he has hurt you?

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Recently my boyfriend did a very stupid and hurtful thing. He told me immediately and burst into tears. Instead of processing how it hurt me I ended up comforting him and making sure he is ok. The next day I realised that this is the 3rd time this sort of thing has happened, and that it results in him feeling great and me feeling even more hurt and confused. Is it normal to take his comfort so much further ahead of my own?

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  • Lia
    13 years ago

    Well at least he feels guilty about what he has done, and you're a really nice person.
    Do you want to keep going out with him? Do you think he'll keep doing the hurtful things he does? It's one thing for him to feel guilty about it (you can comfort him then) but if he's not learning from his guilt then he's not worth it.

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  • jensapa
    13 years ago

    Yeh three times is to much. Your meant to be his GF, not mother. Your needs need to be met too, u will end up resenting him an the next time he stuffs up, or the next, (or the next..) u will blow up an tell him to grow the hell up. Not healthy.

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  • CompletelyLOST
    13 years ago

    Co-dependency suggests attaching to a stronger more dominating personality but in truth, Im the more dominant type in our relationship. I just generally cant bear to upset him further cause i can see how much Hes already beating himself up about what hes done.

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  • BirdyMojo
    13 years ago

    DUMP THE DUMBASS! :D

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