Is it normal to end the relationship b/c i feel he deserve something better?

I love my boyfriend with all my soul. We have been together for 2 years and we see each other on weekends. I have 3 teens 18, 16 and 15 (all boys). I raised my children on my own. My boyfriend is 50 and I am 38. My oldest son has Asperger and Poland Syndrome. I love all my children but I have to admit it’s difficult to deal with the one with Asperger and that causes me depression, anger and most of the time I am depress. I have been thinking in ending my relationship b/c I think my boyfriend deserves something better. He deserves someone like him with healthy children or in a financial level like his. I work hard but I live check by check, I can’t save $ and only get pay twice a month, one check for rent the other for bills. One check goes all in my rent payment, so I am almost always broke without money. My boyfriend does help me, but I hate depending on him since he doesn’t even live here and it’s not his responsibility. That adds to my depression. My life has been and will always be a struggle, and I don’t want my boyfriend having to deal with my problems anymore. Am I right in ending the relationship? I feel bad for him b/c he is very good to me, but I am depress woman and I don’t see my situation changing in the near future. He has been very patient dealing with my crankiness but I think is enough. I don’t want to be selfish.

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  • PapzBSlim

    As a guy, if he is helping you and you are struggling, you should keep him. He will be devastated or angry for all he has done to show you his love and support and you end the relationship. He is showing you that he is there and cares for you. Why are a lot of women like this? They find a good man who is there for support and even though everything is well in the relationship, they have to find some excuse to end it?

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  • Terence_the_viking

    No don't you will ubset him more if you do this

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  • SarahWalker

    I am so sick of the "You deserve someone better" card. You sound sincere and concerned, but I have been hurt so much in the past because guys ALWAYS think they're not good enough for me. So, if he wants to be with you, let him! You deserve each other.

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  • Mando

    You could give the guy some credit for being able to make up his own mind about being with you. Why not just level with him and say you worry that some of your problems are a bit of a burden. Then he can let you know what he thinks and feels. Ending it seems extreme, unfair to him, and frankly unfair to you. Get a grip.

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  • pappusharma

    Don't break-up, don't be so overstressed about all this, talk with him, some solution will come out, dumping him is not an option....

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  • ccjigsaw

    You're just colapsing under the pressures of life. This happens to everyone, even if our burdens aren't as bad as yours. You just have to wait it out until the feeling passes and realize it's just a feeling. We're human, and life is an asshole. It's not easy, but it's doable lol

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  • jucedaguy

    Disability support services are so underfunded, my son has a condition and it puts one hell of a strain on financials, emotions within the family and socially. Here in Australia there is very little help service wise after a child has reached schooling age. Through my sons early years I have met many families all suffering these hardships. And yes, quite a lot of broken families and relationships.
    I still love my son but... He is an absolute champion. Hang in there OP I'm sure your man accepts you and all you have going on. You've also done all of this on your own, I'm damn near certain this guy would have nothing but love, respect and admiration for you.
    Just remember to take care of yourself every now and then and don't give yourself guilt if you do.
    You deserve it! XOXO

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