Is it normal to drink more because you're dating an alcoholic?

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I know I can't blame my drinking on someone else. That's what alcoholics do, and it doesn't work when I'm accusing someone else of being an alcoholic.

I can put away the drinks when the mood strikes me. I can also forget that alcohol exists for months at a time. It depends on who I'm around. Right now, I'm around an alcoholic SO.

Is it Normal(TM) to drink because you're afraid that sobriety will make you drift apart from someone that you love? By love, I mean the selfish kind, of course. :)

I really think that's the reason I drink. I'm not in college anymore, but I still hate being that goody-goody, you know?

Please be specific in your responses, and I will much appreciate it! I'm really interested in analyzing myself, and my codependent responses to my SO's drinking. He's a good guy, but I wonder if I underestimated his self-admitted "functioning alcoholism."

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  • green_boogers
    9 years ago

    I dated a woman that was a heavy drinker for a while. I appreciated alcohol less and less until finally I broke up with her to get away from it.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      I have a fear of "outgrowing" people. I have this instinct to lower my standards to fit in, which is becoming more of a nuisance as I age.

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      • green_boogers
        9 years ago

        Try making friends with people that have the same Myers-Briggs personality profile that you have. These people are probably growing in the same direction as you are.

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  • WhiteStallion
    9 years ago

    Your partner can influence your habits more than you know, but since you're conscious about it, you can stop drinking and maybe even set an example for him.

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  • ants91shearer
    9 years ago

    Heading down the wrong path..

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  • RoseIsabella
    9 years ago

    Well, at least you already know you're codependent. Now what are you going to do about it?

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Stop drinking completely, pretend to be a recovering alcoholic at parties and bars, and gradually grow to resent him for being the reason I can't have a glass of Pinot at Thanksgiving or try "real" absinthe.

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      • RoseIsabella
        9 years ago

        Sounds rather bleak. Honestly, I'd like to try absinthe myself.

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