Is it normal to do this while having sex?

My wife and I have great sex, but one time recently she faked an orgasm. After we were done playing, I mentioned that she didn't have to fake orgasms (she usually has great orgasms). At first she claimed it was real and then when she realized I really knew better, she fessed up that it was fake and she did it because she just didn't think she was going to get there that night. I was cool with that.

She asked how I knew and I told her the telltale sign was that I didn't feel her have contractions down there. And contractions are the one thing that always happens during a real orgasm. She looked it up on a medical site and was like, "damn, the secret is out!"

Another site had a survey showing 80% of women have faked it. is it normal so many women fake it??

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72% Normal
Based on 43 votes (31 yes)
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  • dirtybirdy

    I have wondered how men don't realize when a woman is faking it for precisely the reason stated. I also don't see why women fake it. If its not happenin, its not happenin. What a buncha dweebs. Damn it ladies, stop spreading lies!!!

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  • VinnyB

    I understand it. Many times, like in the story above, she knows that it isn't going to happen. Many men consider it a failure when she doesn't orgasam, so they will just keep going untill it happens, or get upset ot disappointed with themselves if she has to stop him. Faking it is a great way to get him to stop while avoiding the hurt feelings or drama that can go along with her having to say stop because he didn't get her there. It is a harmless little white lie to spare his feelings. The reason is no different than when he lies about that fact that, yes, that dress does make her look fat.

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  • Aries

    I know it is very common and that's evident by the studies and admissions from females if you ask if they ever faked them . I wouldn't find this normal behaviour in my mind only because I don't see the purpose in it? to fake an orgasm is to hinder the chances of having them or having them more often . If you don't communicate and address these things , how will you teach and or come to a solution . I agree contractions can be a sign but there are many more I would look for when giving a woman a deep , warm and free flowing climax . I notice when I give a woman an orgasm her pupils dilate , her complexion in her face seems flushed , her muscles contract , her lakes and thighs usually flutter and sometimes can shake quite a bit , her sweet peach becomes very wet and warm even if they didn't squirt / ejaculate that time . They will usually have uncontrollable or involuntary actions such as contortion of the body , making "fuck faces" as I call them sometimes .. the pitch in her voice and her breathing changes ... there is a lot of tell tale signs of a real orgasm that are hard to fake even for the best as they are physiological changes you cant fake easily or some at all . You will notice a lot of women get extremely tired like men do also when they cum really hard if they don't plan to continue having more sex . I know everyone lady is different etc. but there are still a lot of signs and good ones .. so don't fake it women , help each other get there to that special place :D

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  • Nokiot9

    Yeah. You can tell when a woman fakes it. Hasn't happened to me in a good while, but it happens. Yu just gotta be persistent and attentive to body movements and her moans and inner contractions. Even the most stubborn vaginas let it go if u try hard enough and touch it right. Usually if she's having trouble coming with normal sex, I'll switch to an oral/finger combination, which almost always works right away. You keep ur tongue on her clit while slowly (very slowly) inserting you finger at an upward angle (toward the pubic bone are) and keep going till you hit her g spot. Then it's easy. Most of the time. And I mean "easy" in the sense that, 25 min on ur knees on the edge of the bed is easy. Plus, the state they're left in afterward isn't really fakable. Kind of a half coma, mumbling, eyes unfocused, blerb. If she just snaps right up after, I know it was fake

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  • pixie44

    We can fake the "contractions" too.. just fyi.
    Should have just kept it to yourself, now you will never know.

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    • Yeah, she can contract her muscles down there, too. It feels nice, but it doesn't have the "electric" all around feel like when she has an orgasm. Plus, she gets really flushed around her upper chest and neck and the feel of her wetness gets slippery right as she orgasms. I don't think she can fake that.

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      • pixie44

        lol true.

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  • JD777

    As a regular guy, I wouldn't want my partner to fake an orgasm. Not only is it a sign she's deceptive, but it would also send me false cues as to what gets her to that point. Seems counterintuitive to wanting sex to get better as we get to know each other better.

    As a researcher, sexual health is an area I study. And I can see the percent of women doing this to be that high (numbers I've seen are closer to 70%). Many good studies show over 40% of women report a sexual dysfunction of some sort, that might make them fake an orgasm at times to get sex over with. Then you add to that the number of women with no sexual dysfunction who just happened to want intercourse to be over with sooner or make their partner feel better about their skills that time. Still it's deceptive and can cause, perpetuate or worsen sexual dysfunction.

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