Is it normal to dislike receiving flowers as gifts?

I like flowers but receiving them is a bittersweet experience. I’m made to care for something so beautiful but then I have to watch it wither and die. Every time someone gives me flowers I’m reminded of my own mortality.

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  • charli.m

    What's that Demetri Martin joke?

    "I think it’s weird that when you give someone flowers, you’re really saying ‘Here you go, now watch these die—‘cause I like you.’ I feel like you should give someone flowers when you wanna threaten them. ‘Here—you’re next. Better put your feet in water, ‘cause I’m comin’ for you."

    Normal.

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  • RoseIsabella

    Write a poem, or several poems about it. I do rather think flowers are like happiness, they are fleeting.

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  • kelili

    It's not in our traditions and customs to give flowers but people are beginning to adopt it here. I've told my husband never to give me flowers. Not because I love them so much that I don't like them to be plucked but because I'm not sensitive to this flower-giving thing. Give me chocolate or something else to eat but no flower please.

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  • paramore93

    I agree. After telling the boyfriend I didn't like flowers he got me a cactus. Cacti live for years, they're a great gift.

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  • Boojum

    If you want to feel even worse about flowers, look into the chain from field to florist.

    It's highly unlikely the bouquet put in your unwelcoming hands was picked from plants grown in a lovely little garden just down the road. Far more likely the blooms have come from a field owned by a huge corporation in some warm-climate, low-wage country, were tended by people earning poverty wages, then processed by other poor people before being packed in a jet to fly a few thousand miles.

    I never give flowers as gifts. Puppies are a much better idea.

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    • nikkiclaire

      Well they would be more poor without the flower business.

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    • Meowypowers

      Yeah because forcing potentially 2 decades of responsibility is kinder than 1 week.

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      • Boojum

        Joke, Meow, joke.

        I don't even give living plants as gifts. That's sort of like, "Here's this living thing that you either have to take care of or watch die."

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  • LornaMae

    Yup!

    I love getting plants that I'll be able to care for and that will survive. An orchid I got for my b-day 3 years ago surprisingly bloomed again a few months ago.

    Cut flowers WILL die. As much as I love them, it's just sad!

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  • noid

    "Why do people give each other flowers? To celebrate various important occasions, they're killing living creatures? Why restrict it to plants? Sweetheart, let's make up. Have this deceased squirrel." -Jerry Seinfeld

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  • I see what you mean, and it's normal. I also tend to think a little bit deeply and morbidly.

    Sometimes it can be a pain, I guess if you can't enjoy things the way other people can.

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  • JD777

    I’ve always wondered about this. “Here, I found some beautiful flowers, killed them and want you to have them.” You’re awesome. Just tell people you prefer not to get flowers unless they’re in a pot.

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  • toiletbrush212

    I hear you. Like really. What to do with something so useless and in my opinion they aint even pretty. "Flowers! Thank you! They are so gorgeous.!" How in hell can something that you pulled out from the dirt be so gorgeous?

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  • IrishPotato

    Tell people you hate flowers. You won't get them anymore.

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