Is it normal to discover that your date is in a relationship and has a child?

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My date, who's awfully reluctant about going further than making out, drunkenly revealed to me that he's actually in an on-and-off relationship with a women who has his child out of state. He says that even though he has no obligation to date his "sometimes" girlfriend, he feels like he's "betraying" his child or something. I see this as a major breach of trust, so I'm breaking up (whatever "relationship" I have) with him.

According to a few friends who have "been around", unmarried parents disguising themselves as single people without children isn't *abnormal* per say. I'm not sure. Thoughts?

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Based on 15 votes (5 yes)
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  • Cuntsiclestick
    9 years ago

    Its normal for people to lie about being single because they're immature idiots who can't properly commit to a monogamous relationship. It's also normal for people to lie about being childless because they know they're going to have a hard time finding someone to help care for their "burden" with them for the next 18 years. Both actions are pretty deceitful. It's good you broke it off with him.

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  • thegypsysailor
    9 years ago

    If I read your post correctly, "I'm breaking up (whatever "relationship" I have) with him.", what difference does it make? Sounds like you are beating a dead horse.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      You're not reading it correctly:

      "IIN to discover that your date is in a relationship and has a child?"
      "According to a few friends who have "been around", unmarried parents disguising themselves as single people without children isn't *abnormal* per say. I'm not sure. Thoughts?"

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      • thegypsysailor
        9 years ago

        I don't understand. If you've already decided to break up with him what do you care about the rest of it?

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        • Anonymous Post Author
          9 years ago

          Yeah, I've broken up with him but it doesn't mean that I'm not curious about how normal this behaviour is. Isn't that what this site's for?

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  • Sog
    9 years ago

    Would you have broken up with him sooner if he told you about his kid and baby mama sooner?

    That's why he didn't tell you.

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      9 years ago

      Actually, I'd be willing to try work the relationship had he told me sooner. Hiding important information like that for more than four or five dates is a deal-breaker for me.

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  • Terence_the_viking
    9 years ago

    Your date like to the prom? or someone you are going steady with?

    it's all too confusing.

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  • howaminotmyself
    9 years ago

    Well, the reality is that children have two parents. If you are dating a single parent, you will eventually encounter the other parent that fucked your date. This is a complicated relationship from the start. He probably could have been more upfront about the situation, but he probably likes you and is trying to find a way to balance a social life with that of having a child. Ultimately, the kid is more important than you.

    Questioning whether or not this behavior is normal is kind of pointless. Either you like him and want a relationship, or you are looking for a way to justify dumping him that makes you feel better about yourself. In my experience single parents don't disguise their status, they only want to find a way to be happy.

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