Is it normal to deal with my husband not calling me when he's out of town?

Every year my husband goes to NY for fashion week. I trust him, that he does his work there, and he stays with his bestfriend who is a very religious person. I completely understand that he NEEDS to go there to network, see potential brands, buy merchandise, and etc. My only problem is he REFUSES to call me and check up on his baby (3 months old), or just to even say "hello" to her when he doesn't even have a lot of time to spend with her whenever he's at home in the first place. To top that off, he told his mom to check-up on us everyday for him. My mother in-law also tells me that if she can withstand having her husband to be out of the country for months and not get ANY calls for weeks, I should be able to withstand not getting a phone call for a day! Isn't it a husband's responsibility to check-up on his daughter and wife instead of asking his mother to check on them for him? Is this a normal occurrence for married people who go on business trips? I just want him to call for my peace of mind as well; I'm not unreasonable, I just want to know he is safe and well. Yes, I am aware he is a grown man and doesn't need his hand held. But who can't press some buttons on a cellphone now-a-days and call home to speak to their loved one for ONE MINUTE???

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Comments ( 7 )
  • Terence_the_viking

    Why don't you call him? Blokes are really bad at making calls i know i don't call my wife alot or my mum and stuff.

    Call him.

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  • NiceKitty

    I find talking on the phone to be a hassle. Perhaps he feels the same way.
    Would it be possible for you to call him and, maybe make it fun for him to talk on the phone, so the inconvenience will be replaced with entertainment?

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  • la_uva_mojada

    It sounds kinda fishy. i almost wonder if he's with someone else. that he sends his mother to check up on you every day bcuz he's wondering if youre cheating would be consistant with that theory. if u wanted to go with him, what would he say?

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  • americanhoney

    OoooooOooOooo I fucking love fashion week.

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  • Avant-Garde

    He clearly cares about you because he's entrusted someone to check up on you daily. Just call him.

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  • It sounds like he cares about your well-being while he's gone, in that he's having someone he trusts look in on you daily. Also, you said you trust him while he's at Fashion Week. It's a very busy experience that week and it is *only* a single week--why do you need him to call you so badly? Sure, it would be wonderful if he did, but you seem a little more upset by this than you should be.

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    • myguitartrevor

      I agree, surprisingly. I have issues with him leaving when there isn't anything to fuss about.

      thanks for the reply

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