Is it normal to date an asexual person?

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So, the asexual person in the story is myself. In case some of you aren't that familiar with the term... I don't hate sex (almost no asexual does), I feel mostly indifferent about it, but when it happens, it is usually a pleasant experience. I am a guy, which is kind of awkward, since for many people men are still supposed to initiate everything regarding sex.

I only had 2 relationships before, but they were short and never really involved much sex. In both occasions, I only had sex when requested, but I always tried to do my best for the sake of the other person. Analyzing the reasons why these 2 relationships failed, I cannot avoid thinking that the lack of sex was one of the main ones.

I was really just wondering, how important is the sex issue? I am a fairly romantic person (being asexual has nothing to do with being aromantic), so I do fall in love and care for others as well. I want to please people and make them happy. I am open to make an effort to please someone with a higher sex drive, but I just know that it would never be the same as with other people.

So, what are your thoughts on this?

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  • LotusFlower01
    9 years ago

    Yes, it's normal. However, compromise must be made. My S.O. is asexual and I happen to have an extremely high sex drive. He enjoys sex with me but only because it is with me and it feels good because of the emotional connection. Although his openness for sex is higher than most asexuals, so I lucked out on that. However, He does not feel the need to have sex and emphasizes the importance of non-sexual aspects of relationships.

    Sometimes our discrepancies in sexual interest does cause issues but overall it is fine. Sex is an important aspect of a relationship for sexual people, so if you are going to get into a relationship with a sexual person you need to be prepared to make compromise with sex. and I don't know about other people but I need to know my partner is enjoying sex too. Feeling as though I am forcing someone to have sex with me would not work out.

    All in all, it all boils down to the individual person. You may meet a sexual person with a low sex drive. You may meet an asexual person that turns out to be a dick. You'll eventually find someone to mesh with despite their orientation.

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  • Tinybird
    1 year ago

    Asexuals do not date so no

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  • tripw7
    9 years ago

    Well, I understand low sex drive. But when it comes to having sex with my partner, I love it so much that one would never know that initially, I had to be driven and coaxed to the act. I love it so much that it is the single most important action in my life.

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  • pastor_of_muppets
    9 years ago

    You just have a low sexdrive

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