Is it normal to cry about not getting male attention?

Consider the mens' perspective here. Approaching someone with the possibility of getting shot down, neh emotionally eviscerated is terrifying to say the least...so the SMALLEST indicator that you might be less than receptive can send men running the other way. Not kidding, it can be as simple as a lack of eye contact or smiles or something you unintentionally do that makes you appear aloof or cold or uninterested.

What you need to do is pick yourself up off the floor and work on your feelings of self worth. You can't define who your are as a person through the validation you receive from others. If you can get to a place where you feel happy with yourself & whole, you will radiate those proverbial good vibes that make men want to be around you.

You should work on becoming the type of person that you want to be with.

1. Love at first sight doesn't exist.
2. Men think about sex 90% of the time.
3. Majority of men hate rejection from women.

Men aren't complex. They don't see you as ugly or undesirable. They simply don't think you're easy, and feel you'll reject their sexual advances.

My suggestion? Stop waiting around. Women have the opportunity more than ever to shape their own path and form our own culture if we unify and stop competing with each other. You don't have to wait around like what our grandmothers and great-grandmothers had to do to have a husband. What's stopping you from befriending a guy you think is cute? Stop waiting, start acting.

Honey listen to me and remember this for as long as you are on this earth... Men will always need YOU more than you will ever need THEM... got it?

So basically you base your entire self-worth on what men think of you! Not a great idea. The day you can honestly say "If I'm single my entire life I can still be happy" is the day you'll be ready for a relationship. If you go into one in the needy desperate state you are currently in it won't last anyway. Learn to love solitude.

Take the initiative and go on dating sites.

I can see why you're upset, but I would try not to over worry. Go on some dating sites and guys will go for you.

You sound nice. I would hit on you if I knew you. I think CountessDouche is probably right. If it seems like you would be unreceptive to being hit on then that may well be why you're not getting hit on.

If they're not coming to you, go to them. Chat with them and ask them for their number. I used to do that when I was single. They seemed to really appreciate it. XD

*cries about not getting male attention*
"but how many guys have you friendzoned in the past year?"
*walks away*

You will get one someday.

Maybe its cuz youre ugly. Join the club

For the first 19 years of my life I was invisible to guys so don't feel bad. We all get noticed at some point or another

It's normal to feel taht way, but the problem you have is not. You shouldn't have to look far in college to find guys who will give you plenty of attention if you let them in your pants.

Confidence!!!!! You will get a guy believe me. Unless you are badly deformed or disabled. But thats life.

Post pics so we can tell.

There might be a few things at play.

If you are severely shy, that won't help.
If you are seriously overweight, some guys might like that but would not want their friends nor family laughing at them for dating a fat woman.

Like I told countessdouche though, there will always be some thirsty-ass beta male loser who will date pretty much ANYone if there is so much as a shit-smidgen worth of a chance they might get laid.

Might I ask, are you really heavy, exceptionally shy, or just plain unattractive to even the most desperate men? It is a rare woman who just cannot find a date. So tell us more about you?

Are you a more shy, and reserved sort than person?

Honestly I used to get a lot of attention from guys until I got to college and now nobody approaches me to try’s to talk to me. Other girls get attention but I don’t. It has taken a toll on my self esteem as well. However I learned to focus on me and my own self worth self love self growth. It is really eye opening when you start to appreciate yourself more. I also learned from a guy friend that when a girl has no confidence or low self esteem it’s easy to tell and even if you’re beautiful which you are, you come off as unattractive because of the way you carry yourself. This is what I’m currently trying to change about me, hope I helpedz

Why don’t you go talk to them

See this...you've only just begun here and look at all the attention you are generating...and no one here even knows you. I think you'rd not as bad off as you think,maybe it's your own perception of the way things are? I do this all the time too..i'll see something one way,get upset,then look back and i see it was nothing like that! What you need is a bff to help you focus...

Listen to me carefully. You want attention from men. That's understandable.
But what you need to realise is that you as an individual are powerful and strong just the way you are. What do you do in your free time? Take up something you've always wanted to or use that time to better yourself. Because when you start dating or getting male attention, you have to start making compromises on what makes you happy for other people. Be selfish and use this time you have now to enjoy your freedom and lack of reliance on someone.
Work on creating your own happiness and not relying on someone else to provide it for you. It's a big step to take, but I promise you - speaking from experience, once you start focusing on doing thing you want to do and using your free time to make yourself happy, you wont feel the need to have justification from someone else. Spend more time with your friends, your family and everyone who loves you and gives you attention unconditionally.
I appreciate it can be the little things that catch you unguarded, but it is a process and it is going to take time to adjust, but once you accept yourself and start to love yourself more and spending more time for you, you don't need 'male attention'.
Plus - not all male attention is good attention...

I've felt that way when I was 16. The feeling lasted until I was 2 months of turning 19. I thought the same things as you, but I was still trying.

When I turned 18, I joined online dating sites. Nothing happened until that next year in March. Someone on one of the sites asked me out, of course I said yes. We didn't last because of the lack of communication.

From age 19 until a few months of turning 21, I was in 7 relationships. Additionally about 11 people wanted me during that time. I loved the attention, but at the same time, it was overwhelming. This stopped about 2 years ago. I asked one of those 11 people out, he said yes, and we're still together.

For someone who is 23, you're still young. Enjoy doing what you want in life. Love certainly does come unexpected. Although if you would like advice, I'll say this. If you want a relationship, focus on yourself and what makes you happy. If you're not happy alone, you won't be happy with your future someone.

If I knew you I'd could most likely change that.

Nothing stopping you from starting the conversations and approaching them. Get your self esteem back up. Feel confident ac R confident, and be confident.

Hi there, i have been goin thru the same my whole life with girls,and have gone thru the full spectrum of emotions till i just said fuck it! I know what i have to bring to a relationship, they dont, their loss. Wanna chat via email correspondence? Might be a good match.

Guys your age are dumbasses who are most likely to busy playing video games to hit on a woman. Just be patient or take the initiative and start flirting yourself.