Is it normal to continue counselling for your friendship with the counsellor?

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I am an ex drug addict, so I started drug counselling. I've well and truly beaten my addiction now, there is really no need for me to continue going to see my counsellor. But she is such a fantastic woman and she knows me better than anyone and I know her. We have built this bond. I would miss her too much if I stopped going and I can't see her outside of her work for she is married with children. I am somewhat pretending to still have issues with addiction just so I can go and spend time talking to her.

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  • telly34
    11 years ago

    It is probably not a good idea in the long run, but if it gives you the support you need to get by in a pinch, I don't see why it would be a problem. Just don't get so immersed into fantasy that you get hurt when you have to come back to reality.

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  • Avant-Garde
    11 years ago

    Can't you two try to have friendship? It can be close without being romantic. I don't think you should have to stop knowing her just because you've recovered from you addiction. If you feel a connection with a person you shouldn't let it escape you. Good Luck!

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      Yeah you put that really well I think I just got to know her on a certain level, as a client so I was uneasy about transcending that to a regular friendship. I'll try it but she may regard it as unprofessional. Either way, thank you for your thoughts and advice on this matter :)

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      • Avant-Garde
        11 years ago

        You're welcome:D

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  • go-ahead-call-me-nerd
    11 years ago

    have you told her how you feel

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    • Anonymous Post Author
      11 years ago

      I've told her I think she is a genuine person and the only "real" person in my life right now. That's why she is so important, shes the rock that keeps me grounded.

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      • go-ahead-call-me-nerd
        11 years ago

        ohhh um well what did she say`to that

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  • dexy77
    11 years ago

    can she act as your "sponsor" or something similar? just check in now and again on your progress and keep a casual friendship. stability is important and you should have that. i don't see a problem with telling her that talking to her makes you feel good and feeling good makes it easier to stay clean.

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