Iin: to call someone too ugly when desire for serious relatiionship

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IIN: for someone to tell you that you're too ugly for them when things get serious. I was in a 2 year relationship with a guy... he never wanted to get serious or introduce me to friends or family... big red flag in hindsight (wish I wasn't so blinded by love).

When I finally asked him for things to get serious he told me I was too ugly and he wasn't proud to date me and didn't want people to know my heart was broken.

I haven't dated since. I lost 40 pounds lately. Still have maybe 30 more to lose. I spoke to him recently. For some dumb reason, I asked him if I was still an embarrassment to date. He didn't say either way but he said he'd take me out and see how things went... granted I made it clear I wasn't interested, but I was curious.

Here's my question. Is he a complete asshole or is it possible I'm so ugly no one would find me attractive?

asshole adding insult to injury, people have diffferent taste in looks	37
asshole but maybe everyone on earth will find you ugly	2
He's not an asshole, his level of honesty was helpful	4

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sandnigga

7 years ago

wow that sounds terrible of that dude

he shouldnt even have been in a relationship with you in the first place if he thought things couldnt get serious because of your looks

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  thanks. do you believe looks are subjective and someone may like my looks?
  
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  - sandnigga
    
    7 years ago
    
    very much
    
    looks are just opinion
    
    its not even about looks though. people should want to be with people for personality and morales
    
    not just artificial things like looks
    
    you could have the most beautiful girl/guy in the world, but they could have a shit personality and crappy morales
    
    or a mediocre looking girl/guy but with a great personality
    
    obviously its nice if you could have everything, as most people im sure wouldnt mind having everything if they could
    
    but id pick the girl with the personality and average looks anyday
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      Thanks this helped me fee better!
      
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      - sandnigga
        
        7 years ago
        
        no problem :)
        
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[Old Memory]

7 years ago

You can do better, honey. Don't give up.

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FeralDefiance

7 years ago

He sounds like a complete asshole and waste of your time.
As a side note, it's highly possible that he lied when he called you ugly in order to shut down the relationship. Dudes like that give exactly zero fucks about the chicks they use, and they'll say things like that to shut down the relationship when they decide it's time to be over.

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The_Loitering_Creep

7 years ago

I am a believer that brutal honesty is best in the long run. First, his opinion of your looks would not be representative of most people. He has self- esteem issues and was using your vagina to release unwanted bodily fluids. Secondly, you only need to appeal to maybe 20% of guys. If they like you, you've got material to work with.

Good luck. Opportunity knocks.

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yourmindisfuckedup

7 years ago

He was using you for sex !!

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- RoseIsabella
  
  7 years ago
  
  Pretty much, yeah that guy is a piece of shit. Karma will bite him in the ass when he least expects it.
  
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Lost123

7 years ago

Jeez,you blew the guy for 2years,he shames you like that and your considering going out on a date with him?
To hell with that asshole! What's the matter with you?,are you that desperate?
Tell he has a tiny dick compared to your new squeeze,and tell him to get lost!
That's "how it's going to go"!Now Go!!

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- Anonymous Post Author
  
  7 years ago
  
  I guess I had low self-esteem and he told me he loved me and I was dumb. Thanks for making me feel worse :(
  
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  - sandnigga
    
    7 years ago
    
    i dont think you knew at the time that he wasnt serious because of your looks
    
    not your fault
    
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    - Anonymous Post Author
      
      7 years ago
      
      I didn't know... he was in the middle of a long divorce that's why I thought he wasn't serious
      
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      - Lost123
        
        7 years ago
        
        I'm sorry was that sand nigga?Well he try's .
        
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  - Lost123
    
    7 years ago
    
    I did NOT try to make YOU! feel worse.YOU are taking my words out of context!I don't confirm fantasies.I would not do that to any one.Just trying to help.
    
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Tealights

7 years ago

He was an immature asshole.

Sadly, guys go through phases too. Like how young women go through the, "I'm 18, yet I'm so mature! I'm going to date older men," and get their heart broken and their body used. Well, men go through that wanted a super model girlfriend phase. Ever seen a guy who has a super cute girlfriend, but notice how uptight, jealous, and controlling she is, but he just put up with it? That's the phase. He just like having something cute around his arm to show off. Eventually, he's going to regret his actions the older he gets, and realize that there's more to a good partner than being unbelievably attractive; don't be sureprise if he calls you up years from now trying to get back together.

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Jacob_Zuma_783

7 years ago

It's a bit confusing reading the comments on this one. Where I'm from people get into a relationship, date for whatever number of years and have sex when they marry. So when people say things like the dude was using you for sex or you were blowing him for 2 years, it seems very odd for me.

Maybe if you were a bit more discerning about opening your legs for the guy, his true self would've shown up earlier. A guy that's truly into you will respect your desire to refrain from sex if you so choose.

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- Lost123
  
  7 years ago
  
  AMEN same thing though.
  
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RoseIsabella

7 years ago

Those flags are red for a reason, dear heart!

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Iin: to call someone too ugly when desire for serious relatiionship